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Help needed feel so upset had a huge row with dh and now cant sleep

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Debbsy · 10/05/2006 01:50

Hello i apologise in advance for this as i feel a selfish stupid cow.Came home from work last night and ended up having a row with dh which involved me shouting screaming and slamming doors,i dont know why i was like that and now i feel really bad incase ive hurt my baby.Im nearly 11 weeks pg not sleeping very well because of extreme ms that starts about 1am.So im very tired,very irritable and very upset and dont know why,as we tried for a baby for 2 years before it happened and i really really love the fact im pg and love my baby.I wont have harmed it by shouting will i??

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chipmonkey · 10/05/2006 02:02

Debbsy, not at all! You've done no harm. Given that pregnancy hormones can turn any sane woman into a raving banshee no child would turn out OK if a little venting and screaming did any harm! Your dh needs to learn to tiptoe around you at the moment. Show him this thread and tell him I said so. And I've had 3 children so I should know!

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Debbsy · 10/05/2006 02:19

thanks chipmunk must be my hormones as your post has made me cry with relief.Im going to try and go back to sleep now.Thank you.

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chipmonkey · 10/05/2006 02:21

Sleep well, pet!

sniff · 10/05/2006 08:27

I agree with chipmonkey I slam doors when pregnant have fits because things arent going to the plan I expect them to!!! it all stops at 9 months when the rational side of me takes over again

DH ignores me now and agrees with me bless him but I can be a right cow and this is my thrid to !

I hope you managed to sleep x

kayzed · 10/05/2006 09:08

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Debbsy · 10/05/2006 17:47

thanks everone for advice feel a little better today :)

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fenny1 · 11/05/2006 10:20

I have been like an alien whilst pregnant, moods all over the place, crying almost every day some weeks (not trying to put you off). I didn't realise how 'full on' it would feel. Go with it, don't give yourself a hard time especially if you are suffering from MS, and don't get your hopes too high it will disappear at 3 months. That's often not true and I was gutted when it was still vomiting 6 weeks later!
Good Luck.

mawbroon · 11/05/2006 11:07

Debbsy - another one just confirming that it's perfectly normal. One little comment from my DH would make my blood boil and I would wail and scream like a woman possessed. I am normally very calm and controlled so this was quite a shock to us both.

But it's worth it.

Piffle · 11/05/2006 11:12

No hamr, tbh every now and then it does them no harm when they're on the outside too
I understand exactly how you are feeling, I had extreme ms as well and had a very hard time with dp although he tried very hard.
In a few weeks you'll feel more on an even keel :)

diddle · 11/05/2006 11:53

debbsy - how you feeling this morning, did you get any sleep?? Hope you're doing ok. You sound totally normal to me. I have been just the same, more so at the beginning i'm 36 wks now. It is your hormones and i'm sure if you reassure DP that you're just a looney at the moment he'll understand. Baby will be fine, a bit of stress won't harm it, it does it good, prepares it for the stress of birth and helps it cope better.

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Debbsy · 11/05/2006 18:40

thanks ladies for good advice feel lots and lots better today and no sickness and went to sleep at ten woke at 6.55am lovely xx

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thebecster · 12/05/2006 16:35

I have morning sickness during the night too, and have put my DH through so much during this pg - partly hormones, partly exhaustion and just being upset to be feeling/being sick all the damn time. A month or so ago I screamed at him 'WHY do you ALWAYS buy honey roast ham, when you KNOW it makes me sick, you're doing it on purpose!!!'. The poor chap had done all the cooking, washing up & shopping 'cos I couldn't face it... and all he got was an earful and hysterical tears... Oh dear

Really glad you're feeling better & that you had a good night's sleep.

gremma · 15/05/2006 12:35

Currently having a cheeky day off work as i am feeling totally fed up and stressed about not being a good 'pregnant' woman. It has been a real relief to read all your comments. i was getting really worried that baby would turn into angsty problem child (i'm only 10 weeks pregnant and already worrying) from me being a hormonal nightmare and being a horrible wife. Any other advice for coping greatly recived, i feel like a fish out of water at the moment as none of my friends have had babies and i don't know anyone who is pregnant.

jersey · 15/05/2006 13:41

Hi debbsy during first preg I slammed the cupboard door on DH who was half in the cupboard trying to get the work surface fitted in the kitchen! Screamed at him and ran upstair crying. Had a few crying sessions this time but not so bad. I'm afraid it comes with the hormone changes.

Your DH will have to wait it out, and learn to duck .

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