more worried second time round

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I'm 17 wks pg but can't stop worrying about this pregnancy and all that it'll bring. Don't get me wrong I am absolutely delighted to be having another baby and was desperate to get pg but now I'm terrified! I'm not worried about the birth part but more the effects a new arrival will have on our little family. (The mad bit is it is precisely that which made me want more children!) I feel like I'm being irrational about the whole thing but still can't stop thinking what if...Is it just me or are there other deranged mums to be out there?!

I had exactly the same feeling as you're having but now the birth is iminent (3 weeks) I can't wait. I'm still worried about how ds is going to react as he has had 100% attention from everyone around him since being born - the plight of the first born grandchild I think! But I'm sure it will all work itself out and our little family will have just got bigger and more hectic but much more fun.

I posted a few weeks ago to say exactly the same...am now 33 weeks.

It seemed to be a hormonal phase when everything suddenly worried me and especially the impact on my adorable toddler. I started to read the book Sibling Rivalry which has loads of good tips and Toddler Taming which explained DS1's behaviours over the past few months.

I also shed a few tears and now feel fine again. I suspect that very soon I'll feel as I did with DS1 which was 'GET THIS BABY OUT' and let's get on with this.

I had number 2 six months ago and it has been just WONDERFUL

There is so much love to go around in this family and the baby and the toddler are very loved up with each other

It hasn't been as stressful or as hard work as I feared - I already have very good house-management skills and know what the day to day grind involves

You have learnt SO MUCH over the short time you've had your first child, you know much more than you think and you will handle it much better than you think

It will be GREAT! So don't panic too much

Thanks everyone! PC has been playing silly beggars which is why I've not posted sooner. Morning Paper can you pass on some of those good house management tips please?! I'm not bad but DH is very tidy and so any tips are very welcome!

Carwillin and robin3 it's great to know that others have felt the same and that hopefully it's just a phase. I hope all is going well for you both.

I remember feeling a bit like that when pregnant with DS.

I think that the problem is that when you've had one baby you are much more aware about everything, including problems and complications, to do with pregnancy/birth/impact on your lives/sleeplessness/feeding etc . Naturally you then worry about it all.

On a positive note, because you've been there and done it once you're a lot more able to cope the second time. You know what to expect to a certain extent, you have experience so are not thrown by any little problems and take much more in your stride.

DS arrival in our family was great, from the beginning he fitted in and belonged. His DS loves him to bits and he loves her -its so lovely to see siblings together. (Yes they have their moments but don't all siblings?!)

Try not to worry, it will work out fine and you'll wonder what you worried about

Thats meant to be "his sister loves him to bits and he loves her"