So, so sick....

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This is my second pregnancy, I am 7 weeks tomorrow. The horrendous sickness started last week.

My ds is now almost 11 years old. With him I was sick from 7/8 weeks, 10 + times per day, constant nausea right up until I was being wheeled into theatre to give birth. It never ceased, nothing helped. I wanted to kill every one who suggested ginger fucking biscuits or dry crackers or eating little and often (which just resulted in vomiting more little and often).

I lost over five stone in weight during my first pregnancy, i literally ate nothing at all for days on end, then when I started to feel faint I would eat something, only to vomit it back up again and fell a thousand times worse.

No one cared. I was very overweight when I fell pregnant, on two occasions I was told 'well, you could have done with losing some anyway' by midwives, accused of being bulimic by a consultant. Constantly fobbed off with 'it will stop by 12/15/20/24/30 weeks'. It was a struggle to keep water down, the hacking up of acidy bile ruined my back molars.

i cried to a midwife out of desperation, I was told if i carried on, I would be referred to the psychiatric team as I clearly wasn't coping with pregnancy. I was treated like shit and was so weak I could bearly stand.

My ex husband was an arsehole about it. Everything contributed to my horrific PND.

Now it's starting again and I am so scared it will get worse. To top it off, when (new) Dh came home last night, he asked how I was feeling, I said sick to which he replied 'your always bloody feeling sick'. Just like ex h. I am terrified of PND again .

I am feeling so sorry for myself.

My love, I do feel for you. Go to your Docs an ask for help. You cannot do that and care for another child (let alone yourself). My advice is also to get your thyroid checked. I had relentless sickness all through my first pregnancy until they discovered I was hyperthyroid. It wasn't obvious because I was overweight but please make sure they check you. You can live with thyroid probs for a long time (I did) and they are not always obvious. I am sorry for you I really hope you feel better soon xx

Thanks. I have a drs app booked for the week after next. I am seeing a private gp this time, rather than nhs (I was treated so badly the last time that I de reged from NHS altogether, will give birth in nhs hospital, but will have private gp and private midwife, scans etc this time).

I was told last time to basically shut up when I asked for any medication, that it was only sickness, par for the course and there was nothing deemed safe to the baby, but there was medication 'if I wanted to put myself before the health of my unborn child'. Hopefully 11 years later there is something to help.

Oh dear you were treated abysmally in you first pregnancy- that is awful. I hope the sickness fades to nothing by 12 weeks or at least that your DH and the professionals you come across this time will be more caring and understanding. I'm sorry I don't have any good advice. I think there is a Hyperemesis support thread on MN somewhere, though, which you may find helpful

You can get medication for this, you do NOT have to suffer silently,
The hyperemesis support is here www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1655343-Hyperemesis-Support
I haven't been on much recently but there will be lots of help, support and practical advice.

www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/ this website is also helpful and there may be a supporter in your area

There is also a hyperemesis support group on face book.

It could be a good idea to show your partner these sites so he knows t's not just in your head ...

Oh bless you sickness is truly awful. I feel for you.
couple of things.... take the psych appointment! they can help. their there to help. (not with the sickness but with coping with it (and unhelpful partner comments). I found telling DH ' your the baby is making me feel sick' rather than 'i'm feeling sick' made him more understanding. join the support thread on here and ask DR for some medication.
Also this is not last time, believe it will be different and it might be. try not to wrap your self in worry about what might not happen. try to think possitive.
the first bit is tough for most, (was awful for me till 19 weeks) take comfort that this is normal for now and you will deal with the rest as it happens.
Love yourself loads and take care, xx

Come join us on the hyperemesis thread. I lost weight last pregnancy (two years ago) and GP didn't seem to take it seriously. The attitude has so changed this time. Been on antiemetics since early days of sickness, had lots of help off doctors, etc. I'd suggest you see the private GP today and try to get on antiemetics. They really will help. Good luck.