is my boyfriend ashamed?

[SammyFirstBaby]

weve been together just over two years and hes always been the type to hold my hand whilst where out and to kiss in public and stuff.
since iv fallen pregnant in August hes changed.
he didnt even tell his mum till january, this may be down to the fact his dad pased away in october.
but he never holds my hand, moans if my jacket is undone even though iv explained countless times im hot even if it is -2! plus at 33weeks my bump is hard to find.
I asked him yesterday to cream my bump as iv started to get stretch marks and he just changed the subject.
he never introduces me to people, always calls the baby "baby" even though everyone else calls him by his name. im so sure hes ashamed of me.
I havnt put tgat much weight on really just got a bump but ever since about 29 weeks we have had sex 3x. where both 20 and this is unusal.

Was the baby planned?

sort of. he knew I wasnt of protection and we knew it was going to happen. also he was excited at all scans!

He sounds more immature than ashamed. Is there an older woman he respects who could talk to him about your needs? It's unfortunate that his dad died because he's missing a father figure to guide him. Is he also just very down about his dad dying?

Is there any reason you can't "cream" your own bump? I only ask because my boyfriend gets creeped out by the fact that there is a baby inside me and doesn't really like touching my belly...Therefore if I asked him to do that, it would obviously cause problems.

He's great in every other aspect though. Some men just get a bit grossed out by pregnancy. No-ones perfect.

his mum and me have spoke to him countless times and its like in one ear and out the other.
and its hard for me to reach the underneath.

Have you had the baby? Confused as to how people are calling the baby by its name?

Have to say I wouldn't want to rub cream on someone's bump, I think you're asking a bit too much there!

Men do sometimes get odd when their DP is pregnant, especially about sex. He is probably embarrased rather than ashamed and this is coming over in the odd behaviour. Has someone close perhaps disapproved of his being a father at 20?
This is a big step for you both and he is coming to terms with the idea that he will no longer be the most important person in your life. Always talk about about 'our baby' and involve him in planning for when he is born.

Tbh op, I think you should let him deal with whatever his 'problem' is in his own way! Maybe he does have a few issues but simply doesn't want to tak about them! Perhaps he is missing his dad, if my dad passed away 5 months ago I think I would still be hiding from the world under my duvet and not doing much else! Perhaps simply ask if there's anything he wants to talk about, and if he says no, then leave it at that!

Hey Sammy... I've lost my dad and I can honestly tell you that five months is no time at all when you've lost a parent. It will still be so raw for him and it sounds as if he might have a bit of bereavement depression. I know this makes it no easier for you in your condition... but my heart goes out to you both cause he will be trying to deal with losing his dad and becoming a dad all at the same time.

Give him a big cuddle, tell him it's not just all about you and the baby and you appreciate it will be hard for him right now so soon after losing his dad.... all the best sweetheart xxx

GIVEMEACLUE- she obviously knows the sex of her baby and is already using his/her name.

Sammy- maybe he is getting a bit nervous as the time gets closer to having the baby and doesn't know how to talk about it. Maybe ask him how he's feeling about the baby arriving and take it from there.

P.s I don't think you are asking to much by asking him to rub cream on your belly! My hubby found it strange at first but now sees it as a way of bonding and being a bit more involved with the baby.

Good luck and let us know how you get on x