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6w+2d bleeding possible miscarriage

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 08:50

Hi,

I became pregnant straight away after having a nexplanon removed. In the past month I have lost my mother and had her cremation. This was the one thing we were looking forward too; even though we were both shocked how quickly I fell.

I started getting some light brown discharge last week and getting niggles. I paid for a private scan on the Wednesday and the embryo was doing well, I was 5w5d and the heart beat was seen. Also a cyst of nearly 3cm was found on my ovary. Then last night I had a bad cramp in my bladder as I'd been holding on whilst watching a tv programme,, went to the toilet and started bleeding. I called the out of hours doctor who told me to go to A&E, they looked me over and said my neck of the cervix wasn't open, that it was unlikely to be ectopic but due to my age I am probably miscarrying (I am 39 - this would be my fourth child but my husbands first). Needless to say that made me feel awful. Then we were told I would have to wait till late Thursday afternoon or Friday morning to be seen in the EPU for a scan as they are busy (Broomfield Essex), we waited an hour in that room for bloods to be taken then I have to go on Wednesday for another blood test. I am still using panty liners as I am only getting it when I wipe at the moment, and this morning it has for the moment gone brown again.

I am quite cross as these tests are now to see if its ectopic, and its 5 days after the bleeding before I will be scanned. Have others gone through this? And am I likely now to have another miscarriage because I'm 'getting on a bit'? How soon did people try again and when did you loose your symptoms?

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sundaesundae · 18/03/2013 09:18

Think that hospital is bad saying things like that. If your neck of cervix is closed then unlikely to be a miscarriage, no matter how old you are. The tests will be to see if your HCG levels are increasing as expected.

Sadly at this point there is nothing you or they can do to stop a miscarriage, so waiting is hard, but isn't going to change anything.

It is positive that the bleeding has been relatively light and stopped quickly. You just have to try and remain positive for now.

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 09:23

Thanks Sundaesundae, I was so upset and angry last night. I am a biologist, I am realistic with it but just felt the comment about my age was uncalled for. I also think that they should be offering quicker appointments than this - I am tempted to pay again so I can get it over with.

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ExpatAl · 18/03/2013 10:16

Keri, have you been checked for a UTI?

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 10:29

Nope, I even said I thought I may have a uti... He said oh we will check your urine and they didn't! I honestly felt like I was an inconvenience.

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ExpatAl · 18/03/2013 10:35

I just wondered because you said you had a pain in your bladder. Can you just go the surgery and request an urgent check?

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 10:40

I am thinking of doing this, but don't hold out much hope as they don't really do 'urgent' at our surgery. I think because we live in a very over developed town the docs have a hard time seeing patients. I am not even sure if I will be told my hcg levels as I asked if I could phone and get them and the nurse said no.

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ExpatAl · 18/03/2013 10:42

Crikey. Okay then is there an epau centre you can go to?

BalmainMummy · 18/03/2013 10:54

Sorry to hear about the rude hospital staff.
I had a bleed at 6 weeks, (quite abit of brown blood that made me feel like my period had come, and had to use panty liners) and went into A and E and the doctor wanted to keep me in overnight. However after about 7 hours the midwife came and saw me and told me that the doctor was wrong making me stay and just to go home and let the miscarriage happen. I got so upset and was sure that I was having a miscarriage, as if a doctor and a midwife told me that i was, I believed them. I was booked in for a scan a few days later and after much worry they told me it that the scan looked fine but I might have another ectopic pregnancy on my ovary?! It got me very stressed too.

Turns out I was fine and im now 32 weeks pregnant and after talking to other women turns out lots of them have a bleed during their pregnancy at some point! Why do us women never talk to each other about important things. You might be having a miscarriage but then again, you might well not be having one!! The medical profession are scary people alot of the time and it was very rude to suggest it was because of your age. Lots of women have successful pregnancies well into their 40's. I did some research and apparently old blood is often released early on during pregnancy, the blood that normally comes out at the start of your next period. I wish I knew this at the time. I was sure it was the end.

Stay strong, it might be a miscarriage, but it might well not be aswell!! Its a horrible limbo time. Be positive that its not alot of blood and is turning brown.

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 10:59

My nearest EPU is at the same hospital where I have to go Friday as they are too busy. Just looked up another EPU and its further away but is operated like a walk in centre. I may call them in a bit, I am still getting some mild pain around my bladder but no more bright red blood. Which I thought was odd.

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 11:04

BalmainMummy, I have a panty liner on and have not bled once on it. So it's not as if I am bleeding even at a normal AF level. If I am m/c I would rather just it happen... I had a m/c between my 2 and 3 DD's and bled with my third at six weeks but didn't cramp or have pains at either time.

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swampster · 18/03/2013 11:12

It's awful, that feeling of limbo wen you're not quite sure and everything still could turn out alright. Good luck with everything.

I had a miscarriage at around six weeks. It was so early that if I hadn't been desperate for a second child I think I would have assumed it was just a badly behaved period.

My GP told me to go home and try and relax and put my feet up. I asked her if that would make any difference. She said no, but I would have less to beat myself up over and blame myself for.

On the upside, women tend to be very fertile after a miscarriage - there's been some fairly recent research which shows this and the recommendation is no longer to wait X amount of months before trying again but to try as soon as you feel ready.

My wonderful DS2 was conceived pretty rapidly after my miscarriage so he wouldn't have existed if I hadn't miscarried.

And I am pretty creaky myself. I was 36 when DS1 was born, 38 with DS2 and two weeks shy of 41 with DS3.

swampster · 18/03/2013 11:14

When, sorry.

BeadyEyes · 18/03/2013 11:18

This has happened to me twice at about 6 weeks. The first time, the scan at the EPU showed a tiny blob that was too small to be viable. Sadly I lost that pregnancy a few days later.

I got pregnant again in the following cycle (despite being 35, and having tried for 15 months for the first one). I had bleeding again at 6 weeks, for about 5 days. It was scary, but this time the scan showed a heartbeat and I am now 14 weeks along. The fact you have seen a heart beat is very encouraging, as once a heart beat is seen the risk of miscarriage drops significantly.

Best of luck with your pregnancy.

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KeriRussell · 18/03/2013 11:30

Thank you all, if I have miscarried I will try ASAP x

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