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12 week scan coming up... Stressing BIG time

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34PinkLadyApple · 15/03/2013 13:19

This is my first pregnancy and I have my 12 week scan this coming week. I'm suddenly feeling very stressed about it all being OK at the scan. I've had no morning sickness or even nausea, boobs have stopped hurting, no cramping. I just don't feel pregnant! Is this normal? Other half is not even talking to me about it as he knows I am stressing and probably thinks he will make it worse. His parents are super excited about their first grandchild and have cancelled holidays, planned xmas with a 3 month old already and I just feel this waful pressure on me to give a perfect scan photo to them this week or their dreams will be shattered :( (NOT TO MENTION OURS!)

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Purplemonster · 15/03/2013 13:24

I think it's perfectly normal to feel like this, most people feel really worried before their 12 week scan, I worried myself silly. It does get slightly easier after the first scan but you'll probably be worrying yourself daft about the 20 week scan before you know it. Not having any symptoms doesn't necessarily mean there's anything to worry about so best of luck!

june2013 · 15/03/2013 13:26

Hey there - I felt v anxious before my 12 week scan, I have so many friends who had had problems. But we breezed through it. I had no symptoms passed week 8 / 9 I think. No morning sickness and I've never had sore boobs or cramping, hurting, craving... I've had nothing (which you realise is a blessing!). The midwife was great at the scan, the very first thing she said was there's the heart: beating! From there it was plan sailing and has been since (I'm 26 / 27 weeks, I can't remember now!). I hope it all goes well for you. Good luck!

Cavort · 15/03/2013 13:28

Perfectly normal and I'm afraid there's not much anyone can say to stop the worry.

Personally I just kept reminding myself about how the odds are heavily weighted towards a happy outcome and chances of them finding a problem are slim.

Good luck, it'll soon be over

smallsmith · 15/03/2013 20:43

I think most of us felt/ feel the same way - I'd convinced myself it was all in my head because we wanted the baby so much. Burst into tears just before we left for the hospital, and cried all the way there! So I totally understand.

I have several friends who went their entire pregnancies with no symptoms/ signs at all, other than the growing bump. Try not to worry, you may be one of the lucky ones that gets no sickness and sails through it all. Even with loads of symptoms and after my first scan, it still doesn't feel real to me!

Like others have said there's not much more people can say to help stop the worry, other than knowing there's so many of us sharing what you're feeling. Good luck! x

riskit4abiskit · 15/03/2013 20:49

Hi. I was exactly the same and actually shocked to see a baby on the scan! Everyone feels like us I'm sure.

Good luck

jenmay10 · 15/03/2013 22:06

I felt exactly the same. You're in that really horrible inbetween stage where you have gotten over the nausea and are regaining some energy, but you can't yet feel any movement to say that he/she's in there doing fine. The worst thing I did was get so upset and stressed about something that I couldn't control anyway. I had to ask my DH after the scan if my baby was actually there even though I had held my breath whilst watching him wiggle around. In all likelihood you and your baby will be fine and you'll be looking forward to that 20 week scan in no time
Just a tiny word of advice, share your worries with your DP because he's probably just as scared and nervous as you, but he may be the voice of reason as he can see what the stress is doing to you. And high blood pressure is never good for baby!

Look after yourself and enjoy the scan, you'll be a great mum!

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34PinkLadyApple · 16/03/2013 23:16

Thanks all. Had a minor meltdown and burst into tears telling other half how i felt. He feel scared too. Ive calmed down for now so i just hope i hold it together til the scan. I will keep u posted. Thanks again

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34PinkLadyApple · 23/03/2013 08:32

Hi ladies. Had scan and it was amazing. All was well and ive been given a new edd six days earlier than originally thought. Thanks for listening to my fretting [flowers[

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MrsSpagBol · 23/03/2013 08:40

Awww many many congrats 34 pink that is awesome.

I cried ALL the way to my 12 week scan i was so so scared i worked myself right up so I know how you felt!

I also worried for my 20 week scan - lol - this is our new life apparently!

Alexandra6 · 23/03/2013 08:42

Awww congratulations! I'm only 4 weeks 2 days (I think, I ov'd late but think I'm working that out right!) and am so anxious, I've even found myself googling mc stats (which are terrifying) to try and prepare myself. I'm going to have an early scan at 8/9 weeks. Anyway I'm so glad yours went well and it cheered me up, I even let myself imagine how happy I'd be if they heard the heartbeat at mine (and cried my eyes out!)

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