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WWYD: 30 weeks, hen weekend away and full of cold

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Bunnychan · 14/03/2013 20:24

Hi,
Just after opinions really.
I'm exactly 30 weeks and been feeling well so far. Been feeling run down lately and had to have Wednesday off work with swallow glands and feeling exhausted. I woke up at 4.30 this morning and didn't go back to sleep. Today at work I was feeling better but feel lousy tonight; don't know if its the cold or tiredness! Tomorrow I'm supposed to be travelling two hours away for my sister in laws hen weekend. She's my Dp's twin sister and although there is about 20 of us going, I feel like I am letting her down if I don't go. The hotel is paid for and we're doing an 80s dance class on the sat; this whole weekend is something I would normally love but I'm dreading it.
I really don't know what to do!
What would you do?
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HPsauceonbaconbuttiesmmm · 14/03/2013 21:39

Pull out. Phone her and say how desperately sorry you are but you're feeling dreadful and can't risk it. It would be awful for you trying to seem happy and full of fun, and awful for her if you cast a damper on the party so to speak.

Being pregnant and ill is really shitty. Send some flowers to the hotel or something nice as a surprise. Unless she's completely unreasonable she'll not question your decision for a second.

WishIdbeenatigermum · 14/03/2013 21:43

Are you sharing a hotel room? Would they think you were party pooping of you went, participated in some and slept?

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Bunnychan · 14/03/2013 21:51

I am sharing a room, before I was ill I said that I may leave them to it.
I don't know how far the room is from the centre and whether I will be able to walk back or not. I just wish it was more local x

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Fairlygrounded · 14/03/2013 22:33

I went to one recently - just stayed the first night which was a more chilled evening, did the cocktail making class which was actually good fun despite not drinking! I then went home and left them to go clubbing - felt like a good compromise.

Christelle2207 · 14/03/2013 22:50

I probably wouldn't go. Just call and explain to her that you're not well. Shell be a cow if she doesn't understand, just don't pull out by text because one of my hens did that and I remember thinking that was lousy,

ZuleikaD · 15/03/2013 07:27

I wouldn't. It's bad enough feeling grisly without feeling grisly two hours from your own bed.

MammaCici · 15/03/2013 18:10

I'd back out. If necessary cover any incurred expenses. You have to put your baby first and over doing it now wouldn't be good for you or baby. Good luck. If SIL doesn't understand now, she will if she ever gets pregnant herself.

pansyflimflam · 15/03/2013 18:14

Dose yourself up on paracetamol and go, you will have a blast (it is a cold!!!) This is your first baby I take it?

pansyflimflam · 15/03/2013 18:15

And how will having a cold and staying up late do the baby any harm ffs people do dramatise! If you are tired, put your feet up... simple

MammaCici · 15/03/2013 20:41

Having a cold and staying up late won't harm the baby. But if the OP is feeling run down then she should take it easy. Some colds are worse than others. Do what your body tells you. Hen parties usually entail a bit more than just staying up late.

glossyflower · 16/03/2013 02:52

Agree with most posters.
You should respectfully decline and just explain you were really looking forward to going but you feel ill and run down.
You should listen to what your body is telling you even more so in pregnancy. And being pregnant your immune system is impaired anyway.
Don't feel bad, I'm sure she'd understand and rather you stayed home to get better than go out and watch you feeling like death warmed up.
Get well soon.

Bejeena · 16/03/2013 07:59

I would call her and cancel myself and this is what I would do regardless of pregnancy if was feeling rotten. She will understand.

Get well soon

WipsGlitter · 16/03/2013 08:06

I think you should try and go for some of it. It's only a cold.

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 16/03/2013 08:37

Its only a cold....cept a cold when you're pregnant seems a million times worse!

OP it's up to you. I'd be inclined to go but spend the dance class bit having a nap so I could enjoy a bit of the evening, with the proviso that I could leave the evening stuff early too if I needed to.

Are you driving yourself?

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Bunnychan · 16/03/2013 09:18

Thanks for advice ladies; I decided to pull out in the end. I am glad I did as I have literally been asleep from 8.30 til now on and off all night. I was being driven and wouldn't have even arrived there until at least 8 last night. Yesterday would have been a very long day; up at 6 for work and then 40 min drive, was at work until 5 then 40 minute drive back. All followed by two hour drive to venue. Stupid as it sounds, I was also worried about being driven back on Sunday by someone who will drink heavily on the sat. My survival instinct is in ridiculous over drive lately to the point of paranoia. My sil was fine about it (to my face anyway) and I'm going to make it to her with bowling and meal with her other friends that couldn't make this weekend. My libra self appreciates the different points of view; so thank you for replying x

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