I need some encouragement. So down..

[hartmel]

Ladies
I Need some encouragement.

In January I found out that I'm pregnant. It took us 27 month. Since then I'm scared and worry about everything...

Now the worse part is, in December SIL miscarried a baby, last week again and it was so bad that they had to take her ovary out.
Today I get a text message that, my brother's unborn baby boy died. The baby was due to come in 6 weeks..

I left work and now I home crying and worry even more about my unborn baby..

What is going on? Why are all these baby's die?

Sorry but I had to talk to someone..

I am so sorry that this has happened to so many people you are close to. I honestly am saying it's really unlucky, because once you reach 12 weeks onwards, losing a baby is very rare.

It's understandable you are upset and worried, but try and talk to your midwife or doctor about your worries so they know how this has made you feel. Go for regular checkups and don't leave anything to chance.

But don't panic - your little baby will panic if you do. Just make sure you are surrounded by support from professionals and those that you love.

Your baby will be OK and so will you. Just remind yourself how rare these cases are and that it is very sad and heartbreaking, but you'll be there for those who have lost their little baby.

I hope your family are doing OK and that you feel that you have someone to talk to about these feelings in your life. x

Honestly OP I want to offer you some support but not sure how I can... For me, the further along I get in my pregnancy, the more worried and panicked I feel about his/her survival - even though I know the chances of anything going wrong are slim to none!!

The fact that people so close to you have suffered these kinds of losses might mean that the odds are in your favour though... As horrible as it might be to think that, if it gives your mind some peace then do think of it that way - the likelihood of two still births or more mcs in the same family is very very unlikely.

Do speak to your GP or midwife about these feelings, though - if they develop into anxiety or antenatal depression then you will need some additional support from professionals.

Please remember how rare these cases are, and how unlucky your family is to have had such sadness. Enjoy your pregnancy.

oh OP! congratulations on your longed for pregnancy. I'm sorry that your family has suffered so much loss recently. there's no rhyme or reason to it, but it's completely understandable that you would be beside yourself with worry as a result. please do whatever you can to reassure yourself (if you are beside yourself you may be able to get an extra scan, to be comforted by the sight of your baby), and rest, to help to ease the stress. do go to your GP for a chat so that they know how you're feeling.

Thank you ladies..

I have an appt to see my Gp on Thursday.

poor you hon - i think it is entirely normal to worry about your little bean, partic after trying for so long. It is, as other posters have said, very rare to miscarry late in term - so that is extremely bad luck for your poor brother and SIL - they must be going through a really hard time. But I think this will project onto you - naturally - and increase your worrying more. As you try to support them, but also then worry yourself. It is a natural thing to do, but makes a vicious circle as you know that worrying and stress isn't good either. Be happy about your baby - and try to relax. The odds are in your favour, and although you must be trying to support your family, be kinder to yourself and allow yourself the joy of your pregnancy. I fret from time to time about things, and fine mumsnet a lifesaver TBH. I would like to give all the kind ladies on here virtual hugs. Try to ease your mind when you can knowing that you are doing all you can to carry your baby safely. I wish you all the luck in the world x

I have to agree with the others speak to your dr and midwife, get some extra psychological support to see you through the rest of your pregnancy.. It will help and will be good for you and your baby. Maybe try some relaxation CDs too.