Advice on abortion, sorry about sensitive subject

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Hi, firstly I'd like to say sorry about bringing up such a sensitive subject but I would like a bit of advice. Just found out I'm pregnant with 2nd child and have unfortunately chose not to continue with the pregnancy due to currently not working (coming to an end of a degree), would struggle to pay another lot of childcare, would struggle to find work being pregnant and would need to move to bigger house etc. although this is a heartbreaking decision I believe it is the right one, I have an nhs consultation booked for a termination a week on tues and I was just wondering how long from consultation it would take to have abortion? Also does the nhs allow you to choose which method you would prefer? I will be roughly 9 weeks. If I were to go private would it be a lot quicker? Sorry about all the questions, thanks for reading

I believe you have to be a certain length into the pregnancy to opt for the surgical method. Don't quote me as it was a friends experience but I think it may be 10 weeks.

As for waiting time, round here it isn't long at all. My friend had her consultationon the Thursday and was offered either Friday or Sunday of the same week. Obviously worth checking as it may vary.

As far as I know you are allowed to choose which option you go for.

Hope it helps. X

Thanks, really appreciate your help, I hope the wait time isn't long, I feel guilty enough without having to wait longer, thanks again

It should move very quickly once you start. You should be early enough to choose either method. If it is the right decision for you, don't beat yourself up about it. Good luck x

Thanks, after a lot of research and reading people's experiences I feel I would be better going for the surgical method however not sure wether the nhs will allow me to do this. Thanks again for your support

I believe you have to be 8 weeks or over for the surgical route.

This might help: www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Abortion/Pages/How-is-it-performed.aspx (I also navigated several pages before getting here so there might be more on the web).

I was pretty early (6 weeks I think) and opted for full anaesthetic. I had to wait a bit but I was in London in a busy borough. I think it depends on the area you are in.

I enquired about private procedure, you don't wait at all, but there's the cost to weigh up.

I knew it was totally the right decision for me and I've never regretted it. The pre and post counselling (which is always offered) helped though the counsellor did say some inappropriate things, which I had to filter out!

Also - you didn't ask about this, but it was really nice for me to have someone drop me off and pick me up on the day, cook and clean for a couple of days. The full anaesthetic knocked me out and I was in some pain.

Good luck. I hope you have some support, it really helps!

i had the surgical method. In and out the same day, and no after effects apart from normal post general anaesthetic 4 day slump.
And a bit of a hormone crash which brought unexpected broodiness which was annoying, but it passed.

Thanks June ill take a look now, yes luckily I've got my boyfriend and he's going to try and take a couple of days off work to support me and to help look after our daughter. It is a hard decision to make but I'm deffinatly thinking its the right one, I've enquired about private but it is a lot of money which I don't think I can really afford at the moment. I'm just worried they won't allow me to have surgical.
Thanks branleuse I think surgical would deffinatly be best option for me, just don't feel up to going through the medical option, from what I've read it sounds preety awful.

Thanks thesecondcoming was that on nhs? And did they let you choose which one you could have? Sorry abut all the questions!

Thanks, mines going to be at my local hospital so can see them just telling me I have no choice, thanks for the info it's really helped and yes I complety know what you mean I am feeling the same, thanks again

I would go for surgical. I have experienced both methods (although in my case it was to terminate a missed miscarriage, rather than a termination out of choice) and the surgical route was much less painful.