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Is it too soon after mc?

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LittleChickpea · 08/03/2013 22:38

DP and I have/are going through the heartbreak of mc. I lost our little miracle at 7 weeks. This was in the last week. This was to be our first. As sad as this is for us, it has made us realise how much we want a family. I am 36 (37 in May) and DP is 41.

Is there any reason why we can't start trying straight away? Do we need to wait before trying again?

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HazleNutt · 11/03/2013 08:44

Congratulations!

And I had a mc at 6 weeks, got pregnant immediately after that, 25 weeks now and all is well.

pinksky · 11/03/2013 08:56

Oh chickpea, that's such wonderful news, many many congratulations to you both! What a bittersweet week. But clearly you and your soon to be DH are a good team, and hopefully very soon you'll be parents too. Take good care Xx

Catchingmockingbirds · 11/03/2013 10:56

Congratulations chick :o

FeministInTraining · 11/03/2013 13:01

Congratulations Chickpea you have a keeper there, and I agree with Pinksky that you sound like you make a great team- perfect for being parents!

Just thought I would share another story as I loved reading them when I was going through this, I had a MC at 8 weeks at the beginning of Jan and we decided we didn't want to wait as there was no medical reason why we shouldn't. I was upset for what we had lost but I just wanted to be pg again. I understand what you mean about not wanting to take a pg test but I found that I was so relieved to get a bfn as it meant we could start trying again. I hated the time in between where there was nothing I could do (control freak by nature!). I also remember sitting on the sofa crying and thinking to myself please don't let me forget how blessed I am to have such an amazing DP and DM who were my rocks throughout. IMO it's the difficult times that make you realise what and who is important and while I wish I never had the MC (8+5 today and of course I worry as a result, it totally destroyed my naivety) I'm glad that I learned something from it and that my DP showed how amazing he will be as a dad when we get there. I wish you every bit of luck and baby dust in the world, it seems like you have a wonderful DH2B (which means you must be wonderful too!) and I hope to see your name come up with some more good news soon xx

FeministInTraining · 11/03/2013 13:03

Oops forgot to say the important bit, conceived within 2 weeks of MC. It is possible! Sorry for the essay!!

GinAndSlimlinePlease · 11/03/2013 13:15

chickpea, so sorry about your loss. miscarriage is horrendous, and the fact that it is so common makes it no less painful.

I'm pleased you've been able to lean on your dp. and so pleased that he's proposed.

I think all your feelings are totally normal. Three weeks into my miscarriage I swing between wanting to be pregnant again to be really scared that I'd lose it again. Talking it over with dh, I realised there is a difference between being ready to try again (which I almost am), and being ready to miscarry (which no one every would be ready for).

I hope you recover soon, and manage to conceive a baby that sticks soon.

LittleChickpea · 12/03/2013 04:15

Hi All,

Thank you so much. This thread has/is a real inspiration for me. To hear so many stories, how you have all coped and the positive outcomes following mc helps so much.

I just found out about two other ladies going through a defficult time and I hope sharing my story with them will help them even a little. Like your notes have/are helping me. just knowing there are people out here that know what you are going through has made such a difference for me.

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Sunnysummer · 12/03/2013 05:49

Like a lot of the others on here, we waited a month, not from any medical need but because I was exhausted of the whole idea of pregnancy after a year of ovulation testing and waiting and then the mc itself.

The following cycle we decided not to actively try but not to prevent, thinking it might be time to try for fertility help... But we conceived immediately! 32 weeks now and nervous but excited, I hope that you also have good luck, things do get better x

MrsHelsBels74 · 12/03/2013 06:15

Congratulations on your engagement.

When I miscarried I was told to wait until I had had one period but only to make dating the pregnancy easier. I was desperate to try again & felt that the only thing that would make things ok again was falling pregnant again. Luckily I fell very quickly & DS2 is now nearly 6 months old (& gently snoring in my arms). Be prepared to be very anxious in the first few weeks, particularly around the time you lost this pregnancy. I would recommend private scans for reassurance if you can afford it. I also had a huge wave of emotion around the time of what would have been my due date, despite being 6 months pregnant.

I don't think you ever go back to how you were, or forget (I'm still convinced the baby I lost would have been a girl & think about what might have been) but you learn to live with it.

Good luck & hope you get a BFP soon.

EuroShaggleton · 12/03/2013 06:33

Hi chickpea. We were on the Oct 2013 AN thread together. I've had a mmc. Still waiting for the bleed now, but I think it is on the way. I'm a similar age to you (37) and this was a hard won pregnancy after more than two years of trying and ivf. We will be getting straight back on the horse- trying again naturally as soon as the bleeding stops and doing another ivf cycle as soon as the clinic will allow. I loved my few weeks of being pg after waiting for so long and am impatient to try again. Hopefully we will both be back on the AN board soon.

Guavasforbreakfast · 12/03/2013 07:10

I would second getting an early scan as mrs said. Having had a mc has made me much more nervous and seeing the little heartbeat at 8 weeks was so reassuring; it helped me get through the scary first trimester.

GinAndSlimlinePlease · 12/03/2013 07:13

Oh euro, I'm so sorry you've miscarried :( it's gutting after years of ttc

GinAndSlimlinePlease · 12/03/2013 07:13

Oh euro, I'm so sorry you've miscarried :( it's gutting after years of ttc

LittleChickpea · 12/03/2013 07:21

Euro yes we were. I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone here understands what you are going through. It's hard and I am still finding it hard but reading all these inspirational experiences really helps.

We are ttc again too and fingers crossed for both of us. My thoughts are with you and you DP.

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EuroShaggleton · 12/03/2013 10:26

Congrats on your engagement. It is nice to have something happy to focus on. Fingers crossed you are back in BFP-land soon.

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 12/03/2013 10:38

I'm sorry to read of your losses.

OP, I wanted to say that I had a MC at 7 weeks too - I was more upset than I ever dreamed I would be, so I know how you feel. I decided not to wait to TTC at all - I really couldn't bear to. 2 weeks after bleeding, I could tell I was ovulating, and with the help of DH of course, got a BFP 2 weeks after that. DS2 is now nearly 2 and a half. Best of luck with it all.

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