19 weeks pg...I do nothing but WORRY

[Chloebw]

My whole life is swallowed in worry about my baby...too a point I dread my 20 week scan this Monday...I am terrierfied I will go and there won't be a baby there or somthing...I have no idea why and I have no way to control and i feel it's ruining my day to day life! I can't even buy baby stuff incase there is somthing wrong! Can anyone help with this? Any tips to come over it?

I can't help I'm afraid except to say I'm exactly the same. I'm actually considering asking about cbt as I'm worried it'll carry on once the baby's here and ruin what should be an amazing time.

I started yoga tonight so I'm hoping that might help.

Oh and 22 weeks

And I won't tell you not to worry it'll probably be fine as that is the most irritating thing for me. I don't want to feel like this and id stop worrying if I could!

It actually annoys me how much I worry I can't
Enjoy my pregnancy whatsoever

This is what helped me:
acknowledging that there were lots of things I couldn't control, but one thing I could control was how I felt. And learning how to relax is one of the best things you can do for your baby.
I saw an indep midwife who taught me self-hypnosis. I listened to the CD she gave me every day and that helped me to relax
I hired a doula who did yoga stretches with me to help me relax
Saw a homeopath who gave me sugar pills to help me relax

Hi well I can tell you I was exactly the same.... I now haven't perfectly healthy, gorgeous 7 week old son at the side of me. I truly think the pregnancy hormones cause massive anxiety and or alternatively it's coz you're a mum now and always and want to protect your little one fro the word go!! Good luck and enjoy your scan. Ps one thing that really relied me was going for a 4 d scan at 28 weeks, expensive but worth it for someone as worried as me. I got to see Ds was perfect. X

Have not haven't -aargh stupid phone!

It's normal to worry, especially if you or someone you are close to has had a bad experience. Even reading stuff that can go wrong frightens us. But most pregnancies past 1st trimester result in a healthy baby. That's a fact.
I found there was always a milestone I wanted to reach and with each worried a little less. Week 23 babies have a chance of survival if born at that point and the odds quickly improve. 90% of 28 week gestation babies born will live. I took/take comfort in those sorts of odds. Soon enough you'll be at that point and hopefully take comfort in it.
That said, even after DC1 was born I worried about SIDS. Some of us are just prone to worry. He is now a happy, healthy toddler. But I still worry about stuff. It's part of being a mum.
I'm expecting DC2 in 7 weeks time. I worried more than ever with this one because I had two losses in between. Worrying is part of motherhood. But there is a lot of joy and happiness too so it's worth it!
I'm pretty sure as you get closer to your due date you will worry less. Especially as babies kicking gets stronger and stronger. It's very comforting. Hang in there. Have you tried listening to any hypnobirthing CDs? They are good to calming fears. Best of luck.

I'd second the advice to listen to hypnobirthing CDs. In fact try this one, its free and online:

archive.org/details/HypnoBirthing

First time I listened to it it put me to sleep :)

Thanks so much for the advice. I will try one of those CDs. I don't even mind about extra sleep just want to calm the -£&! Down!
I keep trying to tell my self that mamacici but I keep thinking that I'm that one in a million. My bumps healthy and I sti have morning sickness so when I think rationally I know my baby has to be ok for that to happen but I think rationally about 10% of the time!