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just want to cry :'(

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mrsR1991 · 06/03/2013 16:35

i am having a very down day today. partner has been at work all week and today is his 1st of 2 days off. he like to play his game in the morning which i completely understand but he played till 12 and then went to his friends house till 4 and i was actually looking forward to doing the food shop with him (how sad is that!?) when he got home but our 13 month old decided it was then time to throw another tantrum so he decided to go and do it alone. he will be gone at least 2 hours i'm sure as needs to get petrol n electric too. i just feel so down today and really wanted his company. i keep getting these days where i have no motivation to do anything, i do the housework because i have to but put i off till the last minute. i just want to cry sometimes i get so down :( anyone else going through this? i'm 17 weeks today

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ButteryJam · 06/03/2013 16:48

Aww poor you mrsR! ((Hug)) have you spoken to your partner about how you are feeling?

I'm finding that I'm getting stressed very quickly. I'm having a really bad day today too and just feel like crying! An eBay package arrived this morning and it wasn't as had been described, and been going back and forth to the seller etc, and it is just so frustrating and completely doing my head in :( I just wish I hadn't opened an eBay account now and feel cheated :(

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mrsR1991 · 06/03/2013 16:58

Buttery that does sound very frustrating! don't give up until the order is as described or you have been refunded!

i have told him how i feel down a lot n just want to cry but he worries so much about me esp if he's at work i sometimes don't bother but he knows me so well, always knows when something is up. he's worried i may get depression but i'm sure it isn't as serious as that... at least i hope not!

i hope you are feeling more cheerful soon and that the Ebay seller sorts the order out xx

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defineme · 06/03/2013 17:03

I would expect my dh to do the game/seeing a friend thing in the evening and spend his 'weekend' with his family-just like I do. Both of us sometimes exercise at the weekend in a morning, but we'll be back by 1030ish ready to spend the day as a family, otherwise what's the point of being a family?
Hope I don't make you feel too down, but you sound lonely

beckie90 · 06/03/2013 17:08

Yes me too. 17+4 with 3rd ds. Partner has become his own person since Ive been pregnant, goes to work 5 days a week comes home has tea gets a bath gets in bed, come weekend he's either going to football matches and then out or just going out sometimes not coming home at all. We barely even talk no more. It's really fustrating cause I feel like poop best of times and got really bad spd, also feel like a good cry lol.

Chin up hun x

Teaandflapjacks · 06/03/2013 17:10

Poor you - I felt TERRIBLE last week, cried all the time at nothing, felt paranoid, very low, very out of character. My Husband works away during the week, and I live in Germany, so it was hard! But honestly - it was just hormones switching - they do this at 16-17 weeks. This is when most morning sickness should stop (mine is about once a week now). I saw my gyn on Monday and she said it is quite common at 16-17 weeks to have a low 'dip', and if if carries on more than a week to two weeks - get hormone level checked first, and then see what else can be done if that is not an issue. So really do not worry - it is very very common if you google 16 weeks feel low or 17 weeks feel low etc there is tons on the internet about this hormone surge/switch. It is unlikely it will turn into prenatal depression- but follow the above guidelines anyway and just 'keep and eye' as there is loads of help if you find yourself staying in the dip for too long. But really do not worry, honestly it is perfectly normal! I have a friend who wanted to get rid of her just born son at 16 weeks pregnant as she suddenly felt so awful!

Have lots of chocs, tea, and its great you can tell your DP that you feel pants. It is very good that he worries about about you - that is really nice. Most blokes, once they know, are sweet IMO, mine came back from the airport with two english magazine (hello and closer) and my fave raisins in choc. to cheer me up. I obviously cried. Mine also loves his computer games, I don't mind, he works hard all week - why not? Is it on his laptop? I get my DH to sit next to me in bed, I watch my tv shows, and he plays, and we eat crisps and dips - nice!!

ButteryJam · 06/03/2013 17:11

mrsR, thanks for your kind words :)

It might help for both of you to spend some one on one time together out of the house? Could you arrange a babysitter and have a meal out?

Also, are you going out everyday? Try and keep yourself busy with stuff outside the house, even if its just a trip round the supermarket, it may lift your spirits :)

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mrsR1991 · 06/03/2013 17:13

i am lonely that's the thing! i moved out her 3 and a half yrs ago and only have 3 friends who i hardly get to see as they live the other side of town and 2 of them work. all my other friends live in the city half hour bus journey away and due to anxiety issues i find it really hard to get the bus and dont really have the money either :( my partner is a great dad and an amazing partner, really understanding and so sweet to me. i dont mind him playing his game just wish he hadnt then gone to see his friend as well, wish he had done it during the time he usually plays his game. he does early mornings at work so is home by 3pm and apart from sundays plays his game after work until dinner time which i dont mind as i use that time to have a nap at the mo or read a book as he watches our daughter whilst playing his game to give me a break. just really needed him today but didn't want to be the one to ruin his plans. some of his friends act like i stop him doing things or going out but i donmt it's his choice and he always sticks up for me which i'm greatful for. i just feel so so down today and im feeling stupid now :(

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mrsR1991 · 06/03/2013 17:18

teaandflapjacks he plays on the ps3 in the living room so uses the tv. and buttery we don't have the money for babysitters and his family all work when he is having a day off. we are spending the whole day together tomorrow but no idea what we will do as no money :( xx

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Teaandflapjacks · 06/03/2013 17:29

poor you hon- I just checked - basically it is your HCG levels tailing off to the lowest they have been since the start of the pregnancy, and progesterone surges. I am glad he tells his friends to sod off - what a bunch of tools! he has a family! He sounds like a really decent bloke. You sound like you are just having 'one of those days' - don't feel stupid, we all have them, you have a little one, with number two on the way, and shitty hormones to deal with - no wonder you feel blue. What about looking out for mums and bumps groups, or mums and tots that you can walk to? maybe make some more friends this way. I also hate buses BTW - horrible! It is hard to think of something to do when weather pants and no money - what about short walk and later painting with DD? you could all do your handprints? maybe have a look on google for some ideas for things to do?

maybe have a bath later? hope you feel better xx

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mrsR1991 · 06/03/2013 17:42

teaandflapjacks thank you :) he is the most amazing man, i knew he was 'the one' very early on as cheesy as that sounds it's true. i love him to pieces. he has just come home. time to feed little one, have some dinner and an early night i think. thanks to everyone who has commented i feel stupid really but hopefully tomorrow will be a better day xx

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ButteryJam · 06/03/2013 17:51

mrsR1991, don't feel stupid at all, we all have off days in pregnancy, its the hormones going up and down. I hope you feel much better soon x

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mrsR1991 · 07/03/2013 12:50

thanks buttery i hope you do too! been a bit better today xx

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ButteryJam · 07/03/2013 13:01

mrsR1991, pleased to hear :) and me too! Feel a lot more normal ;)

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mrsR1991 · 07/03/2013 17:42

I'm glad to hear it :) hopefully things will pick up for all of us :) xx

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mrsR1991 · 13/03/2013 09:27

ok i have come to the conclusion it was definitely my hormones giving me a very hard time! i have now gone almost a week with not feeling down and wanting to cry every 10 mins :) xx

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SeriousStuff · 13/03/2013 09:42

Hormones definitely don't help. Last night I screamed at my DH that maybe I didn't want this baby and that I want to do what I want without thinking about a baby and how I'm not maternal at all! I think it really scared him.

This morning, I'm back to being pretty calm...

I hate being out of control like this!

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mrsR1991 · 14/03/2013 13:32

seriousstuff yes i have been very snappy lately too. i was in tears last week saying maybe we had been silly having a baby so soon as our savings are terribly low etc and was scared we wouldn't cope.. i was just having an awful worrying moment but OH got scared i didn't want the baby!! i do want the baby obviously and i'm back to being very excited. men will never fully understand how much the hormones mess around with us xx

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