Come tell me how ridiculous I'm being! (Gender-related wobble!)

[Jojobump1986]

I'm feeling a bit emotional today for no apparent reason! I always wanted 2 boys. Always. Can't explain why, I just did. For the first few months of this pregnancy I was convinced I was having a girl & I was surprised that I was actually quite pleased. I started thinking about buying pretty dresses for parties or putting her hair in cute plaits while we went romping through the woods... I've known for 7 weeks now that we're having DS2 & I'm perfectly happy to be back to my original 2-boys plan. Except for today!

I was typing on my phone & the autocorrect brought up the name we'd chosen in case it was a girl & I nearly burst into tears! It's just so ridiculous! I'm having a boy & I wanted a boy, so why on earth am I so upset about not getting to use my girl's name?! It's got to be a crazy hormonal thing, right? I didn't feel relieved or disappointed when I found out the 'she' was a 'he' but suddenly I'm terrified that I actually did want a girl & will forever resent DS2 for not having the 'right bits'!

Please, someone tell me this is just a silly hormonal moment that I'll get over & I'll adore my boy when he arrives!

Don't worry, it'll be grand, you'll love whoever turns up.

I really REALLy didn't want a girl, never wanted a girl at all, had one boy and wanted another but the second she arrived I fell totally in love with her.

Also, there was never any reason, rational or not for me not wanting a girl!

This is a silly hormonal moment and you'll get over it!!! you'll adore your baby boy when he arrives.
you can always save the girls name for next time

Hormones have a lot to bloody answer for :) have some cake and a cup of tea :)

Totally normal crazy hormonal moment!! I've had it too :)

At the end of the day you're going to have a gorgeous squishy baby to snuggle and the whole boy/girl issue won't even matter. Honestly. Look forward to meeting your new little one and the happy times ahead!

You're not worried about having another ds. That'll be grand. You'll love this bright, brilliant boy as much as the first one and if anything you'll love them both more because there's two of them and dear God does it make your heart melt seeing them love each other?

You're just mentally letting go of a closed path. If this is your family done then you'll never have a girl. You pondered the possibility of it a while ago and thought of the positives. Normal. Now those positives are a never and you're just grieving the closed avenue. Not because it's your preference but just because it's a big door closing.

Tis normal. Don't feel too bad. Let yourself have a cry. If you find it's continuing or you're feeling anxious, chat to your mw. You might just be a bit down and channelling it into this gender business.

It's also just a bit bittersweet being pregnant for the last time. You might be projecting that onto the issue of boy/girl too. Because it's a recognisable loss isn't it? You'll never have a girl. It's a bit easier than confronting never being pregnant again.

I guarantee you'd be wobbling just as much if you were having a girl!

you'll adore your baby, whatever make they end up being. The scan may yet be wrong!

You already have the right toys, he will have an older brother to play with, plus their dad - think about how much fun they will have as a little gang.

If it makes you feel any better at all, I have a DD and longed for a second girl. I already had all the pink stuff, our playroom is a girly heaven, I had a much loved girls name and I worried about my husbands parents who were absolutely chomping at the bit for me to have a boy so they could cover him in football kits... (Yuck )

I found out I was having a girl and was over the moon...

The the next day got incredibly sad that I'd never have a boy

It's normal I think

I think it's normal to go through the I'll never have a boy/girl stage. My DS1 and DS2 are really lovely together and they look so cute in matching outfits. In fact they are so great that I ended up having DS3 as well and currently pg with DC4.

Totally normal. I always thought my first would be a girl, thought it was a girl when I got pregnant, scan just about confirmed a girl yet I am a bit sad for that PFB not being a boy! It's effectively like mourning a loss (about something that can't/won't be) and your hormones make any feelings feel excessively intense!

• how's things?