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If you are pregnant do you count as a 'mother' as in 'being fussed over for mother's day by dp'....

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riskit4abiskit · 03/03/2013 20:46

... or does it not count until baby is born?

(shamelessly hoping for a bacon buttie in bed)

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weeblueberry · 03/03/2013 20:51

Lol can't say I'd thought about it. Although my mum did day a couple of weeks ago that she'd seem a card 'to mum from the bump'!!

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riskit4abiskit · 03/03/2013 20:52

haha bet she bought it for you?!

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VivaLeBeaver · 03/03/2013 20:53

I think it doesn't count. Sadly I spent all Mother's Day 12 years ago in labour and gave birth three hours too late. Had to wait a whole year for my first one!

Wewereherefirst · 03/03/2013 20:54

We didn't here. I want to be spoilt every day

nethunsreject · 03/03/2013 20:56

Bacon butty in bed every day in my opinion Afraid mother's day extends only to those with school age kids in our family but pregnant people deserve worship daily

MrsHoarder · 03/03/2013 20:58

Not here. But when pregnant dh would have happily brought me breakfast in bed without needing a special day.

salcz · 03/03/2013 20:59

I dropped major hints to DH last year but he said he didn't want to jinx things. I'm hoping that he makes up for it this year!!!!!

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riskit4abiskit · 03/03/2013 21:03

ahhh so that's where i'm going wrong..... it should be bacon butties every day (although I will get a bacon bump then rather than a baby bump)

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GeordieCherry · 03/03/2013 21:03

I feel like I want it acknowledging, so asked DP if he had thought about doing something for Mothers Day & he said he's planned breakfast in bed . I'll be 30 weeks

pixi2 · 03/03/2013 21:05

If its your PFB you should be pampered everyday. No other pregnancy is like your first.

phoenixrose314 · 03/03/2013 21:09

For me, it's just another day (unless baby wants to show his/her face before then). I would rather be fussed over when I have an actual child!

breatheslowly · 03/03/2013 21:16

No - it is a great opportunity to spoil your DM/DMIL if you have the right type of relationship, so that you can earn some brownie points which can be exchanged for babysitting later. My appreciation for my DM rocketed when I had DD and I realised quite how much my DM must love me.

Hoaz · 03/03/2013 21:18

No, it would seem like tempting fate to me.

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riskit4abiskit · 03/03/2013 21:19

good point breatheslowly, I will certainly be doing that, especially as both dm and mil are so excited about us having their first grandchild, and both are beyond lovely

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AmandaPayne · 03/03/2013 21:20

No - assuming you have a relationship with your own mother, to me it would be the last opportunity to be on that side of the equation. From next year on, you're pulled both ways!

AmandaPayne · 03/03/2013 21:20

ps but for a PFB, your partner should provide bacon butties in bed any weekend you request. God knows it's your last chance for a while.

HaveIThoughtThisThrough · 03/03/2013 21:24

My focus will be my DM & DMIL but I secretly hope that DH will think to get me a card. Last year when my best friend was pregnant I sent her a happy mother (to be)'s day card and stuck a London Underground 'baby on board' badge to it and she was chuffed to bits. It's sweet to acknowledge it but I won't be upset if DH forgets.

We do have a deal though for future Mother's days. I am in charge of both our mums' presents/cards and he is in charge of my present/card from our PFB :-)

beginnings · 03/03/2013 21:28

I didn't! This is to be my first Mother's Day. I deliberately said nothing to DH to see if he'd remember . His DM has reminded him it turns out. So, do you know what the plan is for Mother's Day?? To go and see her!!

DD was five weeks old for Father's Day. He got a personalised card with a picture of the two of them on it. I ordered it TWO WEEKS early, whilst being an extremely anxious PFB mother with a colicky newborn. And I managed to cook dinner. I better sodding get treated to something nice next Sunday. Even more as I'm now cooking number 2!!

Rant over. As you were.

nickelbabe · 03/03/2013 21:31

bloody damn right do you count as a mother for mothering Sunday!
same as I gave dh a father's day card when I was pg.

make sure he makes a fuss of you- next year you'll provably both be too busy to realize

Dogsmom · 03/03/2013 22:10

I'm due on saturday and have quietly wondered if my husband is getting me a card just in case she arrives on time.

ChairmanWow · 03/03/2013 22:23

If you think it should count then it counts. Prepare to do some hint-dropping if you do. If he's anything like mine he'll need it tattooed onto his forehead to make him remember.

gwenniebee · 03/03/2013 22:30

Last year when I was pg I spent Mothering Sunday dropping my dh at Heathrow so he could go away for work and then dropped a litre of double cream on the floor of the supermarket!

So I am very much looking forward to my first Mothering Sunday this year :)

I did buy my dh a card for fathers' day last year, but the bump was very very imminent by then so it felt more appropriate.

Essexgirlupnorth · 03/03/2013 22:36

Hubby asked if I wanted a card but said it was a bit weird. I am only 10 weeks though. Have been hearing advent on xfm about almost a Mother's Day though.

nickelbabe · 03/03/2013 22:41

amusingly, although that was a typo, it'll be nearly advent when your dc is born

Nicknamegrief · 03/03/2013 22:42

As I am not my DH mother he doesn't spoil me and likewise for Father's Day. My children normally make cards if they remember and my 9yo (only one with pocket money) has asked Dad to take him out to spend it on me. It means a lot to me that he has done this off his own back and will mean more than any gift.

In my opinion our wedding anniversary is when my DH makes a fuss of me and Mother's Day is when we make a fuss of our Mothers.

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