Pregnant with Baby No2 & SO SICK I feel miserable - please help me GET A GRIP

[LexieH]

Feel really embarrassed to even be posting this when I have friends who have lost babies a month before they are due and friends who have had many miscarriages but i just feel so bloody miserable, so sodding fed up and it feels like this sickness is going to go on FOREVER and EVER.

I had very bad morning sickness with DS1 but nothing like this. This time round I found out I was PG at 5 wks and had already started feeling sick before then. I have literally been throwing up everyday and unable to do anything for 4 weeks now. The first week I was so ill all week I couldn't even keep water down and ended up going to hospital where they gave me anti-sickness tablets which don't really help much. Te worst thing is the doctor in hospital said this could go on for SEVENTEEN WEEKS!!!!! that means at 9 wks pg I'm not even half way. sob.

I know I am extremely lucky as I have a beautiful little boy and an incredibly supportive and loving husband but every single second of every minute of every hour of everyday I am "tolerating" the awful sick feeling and trying to look after a toddler at the same time. I HATE getting cross with my little boy but my patients is zero at the moment and I feel so irritable.

I actually think I have depression due to the sickness but the stupid thing is that when my son was born I was happier than I had ever been, nothing phased me and even though he was terrible at sleeping and I was up for hours and hours for months and months (13 to be precise) I never ever got depressed or down, i just was grateful for every single second with him.

This on the other hand is TERRIBLE. I mean I keep telling myself I am supposed to be grateful and happy and for gods sake some people are battling cancer, i'm only bloody pregnant but I feel SO rubbish..... ahhhhhhhhhhhhh

Anyway have been holding off writing anything for days but I can't handle it anymore and so a little comfort would be much appreciated.

thanks xxx

You have my sympathy.
I was sick till week 19 with DD.
It's hard to get perspective when you are in the middle of it.
Hope it eases soon. x

I sailed through pregnancy with DS, I glowed, I bloomed, I had bags of energy (even in the first trimester when you're supposed to feel knackered), had a bit of nausea but only evenings.

Am now 7 weeks with DC2! I feel sick as a dog most of the time (haven't actually vomited yet!), I'm so tired it's unbelievable and I spend all day running round after DS (16 months).

And worst of all I can't tell anyone yet so I can't just lie in the middle of the floor at toddler groups screaming "I'M PREGNANT, KNACKERED AND SICK, GIVE ME SYMPATHY!!!!"

You have my sympathy

Completely feel your pain- had the same and it was utterley grim. All I can say is try and find a way of eating that minimises it for you. I really believe that trying to have the odd but of protein really does work. Get as much rest as you can too.

I felt like mine dragged on forever so remember that feeling but it did get easier at 10/11 weeks and went by 16 weeks. Good luck and its ok to have a big cry if it helps x

Come join us on the Hyperemesis Support thread. There's a lot of us sickies on there and it's a very supportive, friendly thread.

On pg2 with hg myself. It lifted at 16wk last time: am up to 13wk now and have been off work for 3wk. Have signed myself off til Easter (teacher) and just focussing on getting nutrition into me and looking after ds, although thank god for my amazing pils and his nursery!

Handhold for you. I keep thinking: baby at the end, baby at the end...

You have my sympathies.

I was fine with pg number 1, didn't puke once, just felt nauseous from when I woke up till abut 2pm.

Pg number 2 was however awful, like you I couldn't even keep a sip of water down, my GP was crap and from what I know now I prob should have been hospitalised. I got dreadful headaches and migraine and just felt really down, I also had a lively 2 yr old at the time.

With my 3rd pg I was so worried about it happening again, I saw my GP [not the same one as with pg2] as soon as I found out I was pregnant and she was brilliant, she gave me Metoclopromide which did help a bit, I still felt sick, but wasn't throwing up constantly.

Is that what you got at the hospital?

It is horrible and rubbish and affects your life so much. I also found it way harder to deal with than sleepless nights or anything like that from after the birth. For me it went away after about 14 weeks (and got more bearable around 10w). I hope it's similar for you. I was feeling really depressed while going through that, and looking back now (25w) I just realise how much it affected my life and my mood. Just hold on to the thought that IT WILL PASS, and when it does you will feel SO GOOD that you're no longer feeling so badly.

You're not alone and you have my complete sympathy. I'm 10 weeks with child no4 and I've felt so alone and miserable. I've been off work the past 4 weeks (unheard of) and totally fed up. I've told everyone and I mean it that if this was my first pregnancy, it would have been my last. It's like living in a never ending nightmare and you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and find it hard to remember ever being normal. Yes we're grateful to be pregnant but it's hard to put into words how awful the feeling is. I'm hoping to start improving anytime now as at 10 weeks the baby's placenta starts to work and starts regulating the erratic hormones that we've had to put up with. Big hug and hopefully it won't last much longer and hey, I keep telling myself things can only get better xxx

Have you had a scan? The line about depression struck a cord- that's EXACTLY how I felt on my second pregnancy. Then at 12 weeks I found out it was twins.....regardless you have my complete sympathy.

HI everyone, thanks so much for all your support and hugs hugs hugs back to all you suffering and who have suffered... it is good to know that I am not alone and feeling a bit fed up and sorry for myself is ok.

AmberLeaf - yes i am on Metoclopromide but i still retch over and over regardless of taking them so sometimes I don't bother... i think my issue is not eating enough as the minute i fel hungry i am "sick" but i also can't eat anything without feeling bad.... it's just a vicious circle.

macandcheesewithbaconbits - scan on 21st march - TERRIFIED it will be twins, they are in our family and since being so sick my Mum is convinced! Did you just burst into tears??

xxx

Hi Lexie, have only just seen this thread.

I found out I was pregnant at 3.5 weeks. I started being sick soon after. It was horrendous, I had to take weeks off work, I couldn't keep anything down and even thought about termination of a much wanted baby.

I remember laying on the floor screaming at the ceiling to just let me die. I didn't want to live anymore.

I posted a thread on here and got done great advice, went to doctors and got put on cyclizine. The doctor said by week 16 it would start to get better.

Well the thought of another 11+ weeks was too much. How was I going to cope with that when I had been through the longest two/three weeks of my life so I just broke it down into manageable bits. So the start of the week, then the start of the week +3 (middle of the week) then start ok week +4 (slightly over middle of week) and then it was only 3 days to the next milestone.

Hope that makes sense, it really helped me. I am now 17+4 and feeling much better, still have the occasional day but can see an end in sight not just constant nausea and sickness.

I promise you it gets so much better. I promise. As one mumsnetter said to me on my thread. When you feel bad, imagine you have my hand, every time you want to you squeeze hard! Sounds cheesy written down but it helped too!

Thanks sparkle101 - your post has made me cry, thanks for posting, sharing and helping however i am so sorry for you that you have felt so bad.... my Mum was only saying to me this morning how she'd heard how people want to terminate because they feel so bad, that's how i have felt a few times but would never have said to anyone, it's so strange.... it's just unbearable isn't it.... breaking it down does help i guess i just keep comparing it to when i was pregnant with my first and trying to remember if i really did feel better or if it lasted the whole pregnancy... that's the thing i am most scared of as it happened to my friend... 9 months of being sick. i couldn't do it. The sad thing is we wanted 3 but I really can't do this again. Is it your first?

xxx

Sorry didn't want to make you cry! I told my dh I wanted a termination, it was such a hard conversation but I now realise just a reaction to the whole sickness thing.

This is my second, was sick all the way through with the first but it tended to be just the morning and occasional evenings towards the end.

Dh reminds me throughout this time that I did start to feel more human and I was able to do stuff from about the time I am now. It also helps that I kept a rather sporadic diary with dd so I can keep an eye on where I was last time.

In terms of thinking of another now is so not the right time to be thinking of that. My friends take great delight in telling me how much I never wanted another one when pregnant with dd but I still went ahead and did it anyway. A woman's brain has amazing ways of blocking out painful memories! Just concentrate on this one.

If it helps see if you can get medication / changed. I'm on cyclizine and its really helped. Meant to say the breaking things down really helped and before I realised it I was getting to the week +5 days without thinking.

The other way I'm trying to look at it (which I got from my sonographer with dd) was that all the whole you're being sick it means baby is getting everything it needs. (The sonographer called it a parasite but I prefer to forget that part!)

The other thing I found helpful was when I had my dating scan. There was something in there! Something which made the sickness more understandable and something to look forward to. Otherwise it's just feeling poo and no real reason!

I know it feels like you can never remember feeling well but you did, and you will do again. Try and hold onto that.

Sorry, I do waffle, just got a lot to say and so much that helped me get through! I never ever thought I'd write either of my last two posts!

ah thanks so much sparkle you are so so kind. xxx