Help me stop feeling like this

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After over a year of ttc dc2 I finally got my bfp the other day. I happily let dh know who was still at work and he was over the moon.
However, by the time he returned home from work I was in floods of tears and have been like that every evening. I just cannot feel happy about this pg which was so much wanted. I know how lucky I am but cannot help thinking something will go wrong. I am scared of dying and leaving dd. I don't know how to feel more positive and stop crying.

Has anybody any advice or been through similar?

Please don't think I'm disregarding your feelings, but hormones are bound to be playing a part in how you're feeling. Also even when a pregnancy is wanted the news that you're pregnant can be incredibly overwhelming. It is a big life change and a very emotional time.

Try to write down how you're feeling and why you think that might be, talk to your OH and make sure he understands and gives you support. It's most likely that this will pass once you get your head round it, but if it doesn't then it might be an idea to go to your GP to look at ensuring you get the right support through your pregnancy.

Congratulations on getting your BFP at last.

Yes to having been through similar. You are not alone.

After 2 years of ttc I spent the first few weeks of pregnancy totally petrified, in floods of tears and unable to cope.

Looking back, I would agree with ChairmanWow that hormones play a part, although that is no consolation at the time. Also, the responsibility and realisation of what a momentous thing this is are just starting to kick in.

Agree with all of ^ advice. Just wanted to let you know that you are definitely not alone.

I really feel like more people should know that early pregnancy can be a difficult time. Make sure you have someone to talk to - if you've not told many people about being pg yet, can you confide in a close friend? I did 3 wks after the bfp and the first thing she said was 'congratulations', which was so shocking to hear because I had been feeling devastated! Made me put things in perspective a bit.

Thank you so much for replying.

I just feel so gloomy and have no energy for anything. I am not good with anything remotely medical and after having such an easy pg and labour with DD I feel like I can't be lucky enough to have it so easy again ifyswim. Also after deperately wanting a second dc to complete our family I am now finding myself thinking we were perfectly happy why did I want to rock the boat? What you both said about being overwhelmed and realisation sinking in is totally true and I am going to try to stop feeling so guilty about feeling shaken and emotional and give myself chance to let it sink in.

Writing my feelings down is a great idea as it will help me work through my feelings and I might also show it to DH, he is been really supportive but I am sure he is feeling after months of TTC and I have struggled to explain to him what I am feeling (mainly because I have been sobbing)

I spent the afternoon with my friend today and although I considered it I didn't tell her as I was enjoying being outdoors and not thinking about it for a while. I am also a bit embarrased about my reaction to the news as well. We had decided not to tell anyone but gertrudestein I think you might be right and telling one of my friends could be useful.

Thanks again for replying and letting me know that I am not alone. I haven't rang the GP/ midwife yet but I think I will mention it if I am still feeling gloomy