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Should I be enraged? - epidural

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RoxyLady · 28/02/2013 07:52

Out of the blue my SIL texts me to say she think i should have an epidural so my partner doesnt get stressed while im in labor.
Im quite enraged about it. Am i being over emotional?

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marzipananimal · 28/02/2013 07:56

Bizarre from your SIL. Just ignore. You might want an epidural, you might not

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RoxyLady · 28/02/2013 07:58

This is my second preg so I know I definately dont want one. But her comments to me are just unbelievable.

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whattodoo · 28/02/2013 07:59

She needs to find a hobby, I think!

Its none of her business what pain relief you are considering, and its very odd for her to suggest something purely because she believes it might be best for your DP!

whattodoo · 28/02/2013 08:00

Don't let what she said bother you, just put it down to (hopefully temporary) idiocy.

Littleturkish · 28/02/2013 08:03

I'd reply

'Hahaha you do make me laugh. Yeah, great idea! :) I think you should get a labotomy so your OH doesn't get stressed! Hehe have a great day x'

Just laugh it off. People are stupid.

SucksToBeMe · 28/02/2013 08:03

God forbid your partner should get stressed at such an important time

Is there anything else you could do to ease your mil worries? Have your child quietly behind a curtain perhaps? I think being as far away from mil will be the most calming influence pin yourself and your partner

DontmindifIdo · 28/02/2013 08:15

i would show the message to your DH, tell him you are really disappointed he discussed this with his sister rather than coming to you and that he left it to her to tell you. That if he doesn't feel up to it, you'll get another birth partner, that you're not sure he's going to be able to support you if he's worried about getting stressed.

Then let him explode that of course he's not told her to send that message, then calmly tell him to talk to her about it. Don't engage yourself. Let him go read the riot act at her.

weeblueberry · 28/02/2013 08:35

Sounds to me like she's just nebbing in where it doesn't belong. Personally I'd just shrug it off. There are far more important things to be enraged about than a daft offhand comment from his sister. Are you sure she wasn't joking/being sarcastic/

FireOverBabylon · 28/02/2013 09:12

Reply "Ooh thanks, are you offering?"

javabean · 28/02/2013 09:18

I wouldn't be enraged, just seems an odd thing to say! I'd text back with 'I'm far more worried about me getting stressed during labour'.

knittingirl · 28/02/2013 10:06

I vote ignore. If you respond, the danger is you get sucked into an argument/debate about something that is so far from being her business it's untrue.

Keepsmilingsunshine · 28/02/2013 10:09

Your right to be mad, it's none of her business. I would suggest delete the message and ignore.

Rockchick1984 · 28/02/2013 10:18

I second Littleturkish suggestion

AmandaCooper · 28/02/2013 10:25

People say some mad things. It's their problem not yours. At new year a bloke I'd never even met before lectured me not to have an epidural as all women aspire to natural childbirth as their ultimate life goal. Bonkers!

monal · 28/02/2013 10:33

I have a SIL a bit like this. Rant about her here and ignore her completely with the biggest smile you can muster.

Owllady · 28/02/2013 10:36

is your dh her brother?
sounds such a weird thing to text you

LittleBearPad · 28/02/2013 10:38

Delete and ignore. Then rant here about her. She sounds like she'll be a PITA. Has she had kids - was her partner stressed?

bbface · 28/02/2013 10:43

When you say it is your second pregnancy so you know you definitely do not want one, is that because you had a bad experience with your first?

EuroShaggleton · 28/02/2013 10:51

What a very odd text!

Flisspaps · 28/02/2013 10:59

You should suggest she has a colonic irrigation, see if they can get any more crap out of her.

annaitaliana · 28/02/2013 12:49

Any chance she was trying to make a joke and it completely backfired?! What an odd thing to say.

HaveIThoughtThisThrough · 28/02/2013 13:16

I'd be more concerned about how stressed you are in labour than your DP - very random text.

Mixxy · 28/02/2013 13:35

I very much agree with dontmindifIdo s plan. It's foolproof.

ElliesWellies · 28/02/2013 13:43

You're perfectly entitled to be hormonal and enraged. But step back a sec - it's actually funny. She just sounds so ridiculous.

I wouldn't even reply.

DontmindifIdo · 28/02/2013 16:21

Mixxy - well, it's not really foolproof - I mean, if the OP is married to some sort of wet lettice who can't cope "with the stress" of watching his DW give birth, and also is too delicate to cope with the stress of discussing htis with her like an adult, then perhaps he might have told his DSis to tell the OP to have an epidural.... OP, my plan works if you've married a decent bloke with a bit of backbone, if not, it might not work...

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