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feel so confused and upset :(

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mrsR1991 · 25/02/2013 20:39

not sure which section was best to post this so posted here anyway. not really pregnancy related (tho my hormones are probs making me react worse-im almost 16 weeks)
so anyway last sunday i had a lot of pain in my leg for over 3 hrs rang midwife and she said i had to go to A&E to be seen to incase of a clot. i can't drive and the bus i would have had to get doesn't go to the hosp and i have an anxiety problem that stops me using buses but thats another story. anyway i rang partner who was working n he said to ask his mum to take me. i did and although she was out with partners dad said she would take me even tho i said she didn't have to. they drove me there and we waited 3 hrs to be told i had pulled a muscle! so i obv felt very stupid and bad that i had ruined their day coz of my midwife. i gave them money for petrol and parking and said sorry ALOT! i felt like partners mum was annoyed even after this so left her to calm fown etc. i then find out that this saturday just gone she was pretty much bitching bout the whole thing to partners sister and also saying i text her too much!? i only text bout once a week to see if we are seeing them coz i know if i dont nothing will get arranged and i thought they appreciated me asking as then they get to see our daughter often. i am feeling very down and confused as to why she felt the need to bitch about it even tho i try so hard to maintain a good relationship with them? am i being silly? no nasty comments please i have been feeling so down lately iv been crying n i dunno why and this just made me feel worse :( x

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johnnycomelurky · 25/02/2013 20:47

I'm sorry you're having such a tough time Hmm.My first thought was why do you even know what MIL said? Are you sure the source, presumably your partner's sister is telling it as it is or is she embellishing? Could MIL be saying things to her for another reason eg sister getting jealous of time spent with you? It may be about the MIL being nasty but it may not. Just something to think about.

lucybrad · 25/02/2013 20:59

chill - your highly emotional. Im sure no one meant to upset you. Dont feel bad for going to hospital - it could have been a blood clot and you were very wise to get checked, it would have been difficult to tell the difference unless you were checked. Remember you are very emotional and sometimes people feel down when they are pregnant. Take care of yourself and dont worry what others are saying or implying. The important ones are you and your baby.

lexib · 26/02/2013 06:21

I'm sorry you're feeling so down. What does your oh think? In the midst of feeling emotional it can be an idea to pay attention only to the things said to your face. Second or third hand info won't be accurate in the same way, and worrying about other people's chats can make life more complicated. Keep it simple Smile (and be glad you're aware enough to follow up on any health oddities!)

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mrsR1991 · 26/02/2013 15:26

my partner was upset to hear it too. his sister isn't a liar but can exaggerate so could be that she exagerated a little but just upsetting they spoke about it to her rather than me. my partner said his parents don't like confrontation so they probs didn't want to mention it to me but i'm the sort of person that would rather know if i have upset/annoyed someone rather than hear i have done just that from someone else! i have been feeling really down lately anyway so that just made me worse as i love my partners parents as if they were my own (i dont get on well with my parents at all)

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lexib · 26/02/2013 19:27

I know what you mean - i cant stand the idea of people talking about me. I'm sure if they realised how much it's upset you they'd be horrified - very few people are mean enough to want to make a pregnant lady unhappy.

Fun story - the first time I met my pil they were so awful I considered not marrying my dh. Tears and difficult conversation later (I hate those) and we now understand each others limits. What they though was acceptable I didn't, but it's a shame to have to go through that just to reach normal.
When you're feeling stronger maybe work out a way of approaching them, knowing you're being more objective than you might feel now

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mrsR1991 · 28/02/2013 10:20

partner thinks it's best not to mention it to them.. heard nothing from them since last week. i just think it's so petty though :( still, i'm just leaving it i have too much going on as it is i don't want anything adding to it

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