Overdue and feeling sorry for myself! Normal?

[Bringbring]

I'm now officially overdue (+1 day). I've had a great first pregnancy with minimal fuss. The past week has been awful because:

• cant sleep or walk far due to pgp (was managing to walk three miles at 38 weeks)
• feel totally unmotivated and lazy (so busy at week 38, to the point of overdoing it)
• feel sick and yuk, no appetite or eating sugary rubbish
• all the normal tricks (sex, curry, oils, pineapple etc not working)
• midwives won't sweep for another week at least, antenatal care has been poor. No support for pgp, lost bookings and never get to spend more than 10 mins with midwives. I've just got on with it myself
• just getting fatter and fatter. If I'd delivered last week I'd hardly have any stretch marks but it looks like I'll have loads now

I'm just so out of sorts doing nothing and feeling crap. It's so out of character for me. I know it's a temporary state and this can't last forever but I can't stand this state. I've compleatly lost my sense of humour :(

Me too and I'm only 38+4! Just fed up, tired, achey, desperately want to meet the baby now etc. Today I've done almost all the 'labour starters' already as it was so depressing waking up this morning and realising I still had the bump.
The only thing that vaguely helps is trying to think of the bump as just being part of me rather than a baby and trying to convince myself it's not suppose to go anywhere! That and knowing that the longest it's going to be now is 3 weeks....

Find something nice to do every day, even if its just a trip out for coffee. Go to the cinema, have a spa treat anything to keep yourself going. Average gestation for first time Caucasian mums is 41+3 which I found out only when I went over due. It's the pressure of being given a due date which makes it so hard, that and all the well meaning texts asking if there's any news!!

It's demoralising to get so far and yet feel like there is so far to go. I remember being sooooo fed up. DS was born at 40+13, 12 hours before my induction admission.

I have pgp this time, off work since 26 weeks, now 34 weeks and its really really shit. But in 2 weeks time that pain will have gone for you and you'll be cuddling your beautiful baby. And for dc2 you'll probably do like me and mentally adjust your due date to 2 weeks later!!

If lack of sweep is bothering you then take a copy of the NICE guidelines, which states you should be offered a sweep at 40 weeks and 41 weeks as a first timer. Fwiw I had 2 and neither worked, but would definitely try again over induction.

Hang on in there, try to focus on doing something nice each day rather than focus on not being in labour yet. Good luck, not long now!

Hate to say it but normal love!

It's really crap, can't do much, not interested in anything and all you want to do is get that flipping baby out!

Can I suggest you sleep as much as possible because once baby is here..,

I've just had a massive puking and diarrhea session! Feel loads better now!

Gosh, pregnancy is glam!

Thanks for the nice replies ladies, tomorrow is another day :)

I'm 40+5 and like you I'm thoroughly fed up. I've tried everything including going to acupuncture for the first time and not even the faintest sign of this baby budging. The worst thing is everyone asking whether I've had the baby yet... ALL THE TIME! I'm moody as anything but maybe these mood swings are a good sign that all the hormones are swimming about ready to start things off...? If moodiness is out of character for you too OP, perhaps it's a good sign?

I'm only 38 weeks today and feeling very much the same. Probably because baby's been engaged since 32 weeks, had a perfect pregnancy and all in a I had deluded myself into thinking baby would be coming early. Silly me.

Feeling exhausted through terrible sleep (so freaking uncomfortable and the cracking sound my hips and back make whenever I try to roll over is astonishing!), and all I want to do is close my eyes and fade away until baby comes.

But every time I say anything like this to others, they chip in with extremely unhelpful comments like "You'll miss that bump when it's gone!" And "ooh you should be trying to get as much sleep as you can because you won't sleep again for weeks!" They can all piss right off!!!! Grr. Think I'm joining you in the grumpy club.

I hope all our grumps are the start of something.

I promise I will NEVER text a pregnant lady to see if anything's happening ever again.

I'm with you... 40 + 1 today and touch wood, I've had a really good pregnancy and thought that baby may even come a bit early but my entire mood has changed now. I'm not too uncomfy but feel fed up not knowing.. I also want to refuse induction as massive fear of intervention and so wanted a birth centre delivery if possible so just feel like that clock is ticking!

Deffo am trying to keep busy though and preoccupied- agree am tired of sending the same 'no baby yet' reply to all the bloomin texts!!!

I'm tempted to start replying to all enquirers by giving them the www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com URL... But might come across as slightly churlish...

phoenix agree. Human beings can't store up sleep like batteries to use in two weeks time when the baby's crying, they can just get the normal amount of sleep. So it's a stupid thing to say. And why would you airily say to a pregnant woman who is overdue and distressed something like "of course first babies are usually late." I mean what kind of help is that? And it's not exactly a news flash is it? Why can't people just say "yes it's awful"?

Bringbring I've always deliberately avoided sending my friends "have you had it yet? Any signs yet?" texts but now a lot of those same friends are constantly texting me - making me worry I did the wrong thing!