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Pregnancy

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Pregnancy and a new appreciation

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SeriousStuff · 21/02/2013 10:38

I just wanted other people's experiences of this. I've always loved my parents and as I got older, I definitely appreciated more what they did/do for us. But since finding out I was pg (7 weeks today), I've felt quite tearful, thinking of all the times I was horrible to them as a teenager (I was hideous!), the times I've screamed that I hate them, or when I've taken them for granted.

Because now I'm pg, I think about the fact that they went through what I'm going through now - the excitement of pg, the instant worry that everything will turn out ok (not just with the pg but in life!) and then to have to deal with a moody child (plus three others!). I made my mum cry once because I was so mean to her. Luckily, we have a great relationship now.

Have any of you experienced some revelation or appreciation since becoming pg?

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Greywacke · 21/02/2013 11:38

Yes and it grows even more once the baby arrives.

I am going to completely and utterly spoil both my mum and my mil this year for mothers day.

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SeriousStuff · 21/02/2013 12:15

Glad to hear it's not just me Greywacke and yes, mother's day this year will take on a whole new meaning!

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funkky · 21/02/2013 18:32

OMG! me too.... I am 8 + 2 and with what I am going through, I can only value my mum a lot more.

I really appreciate her more, plus the fact that they never really moaned or vented like we do, just took it all in their stride. wow

CailinDana · 21/02/2013 20:12

My parents were rubbish so it's only increased my anger towards them unfortunately. I feel like they mustn't have felt the love I feel because if they did they wouldn't have been so useless.

honey86 · 21/02/2013 20:31

with my dad definately. i love him to pieces.
but i lived with my mum, and i was badly neglected ( im talking no heating, dirty clothes and shoplifting a frozen pizza to eat raw cos i was so hungry and we had no food). i get on with her now but i just cant forgive her for my childhood (or lack of) so i can relate to what cailin says.
but i see what you mean x

phoenixrose314 · 21/02/2013 20:56

Yes. I am often very short-tempered with my mum because she tries to be so involved with my life and I am a very stubborn and fiercely independent kind of person... but since being pregnant I have really had to give myself mental slaps every time I get arsey with her over virtually nothing. Especially when I think that in 27 years time it could be me trying to connect with my son or daughter and they just keep shutting me out...

I have issues with my mum to do with the past, which is why I get so wound up - but I have made a considered effort to let it all go now. Pregnancy really does give you an appreciation of how much your parents must have loved and sacrificed for you.

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SeriousStuff · 21/02/2013 23:20

Really appreciate your stories - very interesting how we suddenly reflect on our upbringings - good and bad. Either way, I guess it will all shape how we try to bring up our children.

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Fluffeh · 22/02/2013 07:48

My mum died when I was 12. I miss her everyday but I also now understand how hard it must have been for her to tell her children she was terminally ill and wouldn't be there for them as they grew up.
I can't imagine ever having to say something like that to my baby, it must have broken her heart.
But she was so strong telling us, she didn't cry just offered hugs and support. If I can be half the mum to my baby that she was to us I'll Ne so pleased.

Msbluesky32 · 22/02/2013 08:59

For me its a mixture of emotions. For my parents it is sadness because they treated us very badly and paid us very little attention and being pregnant now I can't really fathom why. For my grandparents it is admiration and love - they tried desperately hard to fill the gap taking us on holiday and days out, filling our Christmas with excitement and showing us love and affection. They are in their 80s now and are really looking foward to being great grandparents.

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SeriousStuff · 03/03/2013 23:42

Fluffeh I'm so sorry to hear that - but she does sound incredibly strong. I imagine having children will let us learn a lot about ourselves and we'll be surprised by how we deal with certain situations.

Msbluesky32 I can imagine that, being pg, it would be hard to understand why. I believe grandparents play a crucial role in childrens' development so it's great that you had them to guide you through life.

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