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My poor friend

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riamay2011 · 19/02/2013 11:22

My best friend is 22 weeks pregnant and is 3cm dilated. They put a stitch in and let her go home. No waters gone or anything. She went back in yesterday and they said her stitch was done badly and they need to do another. They then found she had a infection. Now they are saying they won't do another stitch despite baby being happy and healthy and that she will labour within days. Surely there is something they can do??? I don't understand all of this even tho I had 2x prem babies at 33&34 weeks but no stitch etc. I'm so heart broken for her I don't know what to do or say? What is going to happen to her and her beautiful baby boy

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riamay2011 · 19/02/2013 11:23

They are saying If she has a water infection her waters will break??

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lucybrad · 19/02/2013 12:08

Sorry this terrible thing is happenig to your friend. I can offer no experience but I am sure the docors will be working as hard as possible to save him.

lucybrad · 19/02/2013 12:08

*happening

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riamay2011 · 19/02/2013 15:35

Hi
Thanks for your reply. Not really heard much from her and its killing me knowing she is in there, awaiting labour to start she must be so scared. I really feel sad for her she is such an amazing woman and doesn't deserve this at all.

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wifey6 · 19/02/2013 16:38

No advice, but wanted to say my thoughts are with your friend. She is lucky to have you, you sound very caring & she will need a wonderful friend like you.
Prayers & thoughts are with her

ElliesWellies · 19/02/2013 16:45

Sorry no advice, but thinking of you and your friend. What an awfully difficult situation.

I suppose she could have dilated further - perhaps that is why they are unable to stitch again?

I hope very much that they find a solution that will allow her pregnancy to continue for as long as possible.

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riamay2011 · 20/02/2013 07:25

My friend gave birth this morning at 1.15 after her waters broke last night. He was born asleep at 21 weeks 6 days. I've not been able to sleep just want to hug her
She held him all night and named him Leo
R.I.P my beautiful baby xxxxxx

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SPBInDisguise · 20/02/2013 07:29

Oh that's awful, I'm do sorry

SPBInDisguise · 20/02/2013 07:30

Just a thought and I am not having a go I promise but this thread will be quite identifiable for your friend

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riamay2011 · 20/02/2013 07:37

She knows I'm not that sort of friend to do anything like that

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riamay2011 · 20/02/2013 07:38

But thanks for putting a downer on the thread

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SPBInDisguise · 20/02/2013 07:48

Honestly I'm not having a pop. I can completely see why you wrote it. I'm not questioning your motives. But it just occured to me that the baby's name and age are on this thread, along with some fairly personal stuff about your friend. I am trying to look out for you / her at an emotional time.

ditavonteesed · 20/02/2013 07:50

so sorry for your friend xxx

wifey6 · 20/02/2013 08:13

So incredibly sorry OP, my thoughts are with your friend, her baby son & of course yourself Devastating

Dannilion · 20/02/2013 09:09

What a heartbreaking thing to happen. I hope your friend is getting the support she needs. I also agree that there's a bit too much personal information on here though

ScooseIsLoose · 20/02/2013 09:15

So sorry for your friends loss but agree with the posters who say this is very identifiable.

Mummysaysno · 20/02/2013 09:45

Heartbreaking. Just an ordinary day for me going about my life, at 24 weeks pregnant and since reading this thread have been thinking about your friend a lot. At a loss for words but prayers for her and that you are able to support her in the ways she needs it in the days/weeks/months ahead.

SleepyDeer · 20/02/2013 11:20

This is horrible, so because they did there first stitch badly they won't do another one? I'd complain.

I was in bed one morning at 23 weeks, had mild pain and spotting, the pain was getting worse but the hospital wouldn't let me go in! I regret not marching in, 3/4 hours later my mum and partner wouldn't take no as an answer so we went in.
They made me wait in the waiting room for half an hour, and then in a room for 15 minutes. When they saw me they said everything was fine and normal, being patronizing (if that's the word). They examed me and turned out I was already 10cm dilated and had an infected placenta. They finally decided 5 hours later to double check if i was 10cm and told me if I came in earlier they would of put a stitch in me. They kept scanning me. Saw him wiggling around being a pain in the bum and heard his heart beat didn't get steriods for his lungs or anything. They woildnt hwlp him if he was born breathing.

36hours later my waters had to )e broken otherwise I coulda lost my life to infection. He was born at 1.1pound, over 28cm, was honestly perfect and was sleeping. my Angel

ExpatAl · 20/02/2013 11:23

SleepyDeer that's awful. Why wouldn't they let you go in? So sorry for your loss.

SleepyDeer · 20/02/2013 11:28

They told me it was normal to experience. I told them I know my baby and body, something isn't right. But they still wouldn't listen.

Is she in hospital now? Or at home?

WeAreEternal · 20/02/2013 11:40

I'm so sorry for your poor friend and to you Sleepy.
What a horrible thing to go through.

However I don't think it is right for you to share the babies name and time of birth, etc, online. Does your friend even know you are posing about her on MN? I think it you be in your friends best interests to keep the post a little more anonymous, for her sake. Maybe you should ask MNHQ to edit your post to remove the personal info.

Hemlet · 20/02/2013 22:21

It's awful to hear about your friend's loss. It must be a horrific time for her.

I agree you shouldn't put all the personal stuff on here in case she sees it, you say she knows you're not the kind of friend to do this (start a thread I assume) but obviously you have done.

Sorry if I'm way off the mark, just a bit confused.

whiteandyelloworchid · 20/02/2013 22:30

im so sorry for your friend.

agree with the others too much of someone elses personal info on here

all you can do is be there for her, help with any funeral arragmnents and with any other dc she has and hom etc

and in the long term remember the key dates, that will be hugely important to her

glossyflower · 21/02/2013 07:57

My thoughts are with your friend. Xxx

Adreamz · 21/02/2013 08:14

That's so sad, my thoughts are with your friend and familyxx

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