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No peace of mind for emkana

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emkana · 28/04/2006 18:24

Went to see Dr. Chitty today.
Unfortunately she couldn't give us a definite diagnosis either, but she is leaning towards Jeune syndrome, just like the German doctor, while saying just like him that the thorax isn't that small, which might or might not be a good sign.

Now all we can do is hope.

The one thing I took out of the visit that really helped was when I told her about my greatest fear about having a child permanently in hospital, and what that would mean for my dd's.
She told me her youngest had to go into hospital at 5 days old, when her other children were as old as mine are now, and that I should remember that my older children need me, while the baby will forget if I wasn't there all the time.
That was a big help for me as this is the main thing that keeps me awake at night, wondering how to be able to care for all my children if this baby requires permanent hospital care.

Please keep your fingers crossed for me that things will turn out as well as possible, and if you're that inclined, please pray for my baby's health.

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emkana · 20/05/2006 19:33

Thank you for asking stapo.

I feel okay, will have scan on Monday to decide type birth - depends on whether baby is still all over the place or not.

Tbh I feel strangely detached from the whole situation, as if it wasn't actually me who this is happening to.

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tamum · 20/05/2006 19:36

Still thinking of you emkana, and hoping against hope for some peace of mind for you on Monday.
xxx

MerlinsBeard · 20/05/2006 19:38

was only wondering today if u were near your date emkana. Thinking of you, don't worry about feeling detached, you have had a lot to think about recently xx

emkana · 20/05/2006 19:43

To be completely and brutally honest I am actually feeling ridiculously optimistic about 90 % of the time, feeling that all will be just fine!

How deluded is that?

In the remaining 10 % I feel totally and utterly destroyed and cry and cry. Sad

My latest clutching-at-straws thought is my nephew (db's son): He's nearly two and on 3rd percentiles for height/weight, but top percentile for head circumference. So similar pattern to our baby! {Even though measurements there more extreme, ie below third percentile)
Dh has thrown theory around that it could be a male family trait (sp?), and I actually have moments when I want to believe that.

I'm crazy, me.

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tamum · 20/05/2006 19:45

Would it help a tiny bit if I said that I would find that quite reassuring too, bearing in mind it's what I do for a living?

emkana · 20/05/2006 19:47

But me and my brother and dh and everybody are on the tall side. And nephew did not have abnormal scans.

So that's why I'm telling myself that it can't be.
Don't you dare give me hope, tamum! Wink
I really feel that I should try and force myself to believe the worst.

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tamum · 20/05/2006 19:53

Sorry :) Seriously, I always want to believe the worst so that I am prepared, so I completely understand. It does seem like a suspiciously big coincidence, but I take your point about scans. If a load of strangers hoping and praying could help you'd be in the clear by now.

emkana · 20/05/2006 19:56
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mousiemousie · 20/05/2006 20:01

Hi Emkana - remember that doctors get things wrong, and children can make a real mockery of the expectations of what doctors think they can achieve against all odds. I think all children are a gift from god - you have shown such strength and so far it has been such a rollercoaster ride. I think things will look much better once your baby has arrived and I pray for you and your family. Would it help to do some silly fun stuff with the dds?

xxx

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 20/05/2006 20:40

Emkana - been thinking of you. I agree, it's a survival instinct to expect the worst - that way nothing creeps up from behind and bites you on the bum. But remember - the worst case scenario doesn't always happen.

Take care.

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