Not telling work colleagues

[GinAndSlimlinePlease]

I'm just at 6 weeks pregnant, but have had lots of hospital appointments for fertility clinic before bfp. I got my miracle bfp, but since then have been bleeding so been having scans and told to take it easy. The scan this morning was good, a tiny little heartbeat, despite all the blood I'm loosing.

However, because I'm having all this time off work, my colleagues are all guessing I'm pregnant. But I really don't want any of them to know. Especially since it's such a private thing, I may yet misscarry. And if I do misscarry, I'll be going into ivf asap, and I really don't want my colleagues knowing that.

I find it really annoying that not only are they guessing what's wrong with me, but they're also asking me directly, even though I have explicitly told them I'm not going to tell then what's wrong.

Any tips for how to handle nosey colleagues!

Just be polite, and say you don't feel comfortable discussing personal health issues at work, and hope they'll respect that. You can't stop people speculating but you don't have to engage with it.

I'm going out with colleagues in a couple of weeks and I know my not drinking will make them think I'm pregnant and they'll probably ask directly and I can't be bothered to make up much of an excuse. I'm just going to not confirm either way! They can suspect but I won't spill until I'm ready.

Congratulations Gin. You should name change to orange juice!

Thanks for your responses. I shall try your kind but firm response twitchy.

I find it hard because there's so much internal stress over it all. Normally I'm well capable of being firm! I just think it's soooo rude of colleagues to ask, if I was ready to tell them I would bloody well do so.

red I would be lost without my name! And with my current changing tastes I'd have to update it all the time

If people are being persistant or rude, I always found that: "If I were pregnant and wanted you to know, rest assured I would have told you." served me well

Very best of luck with your pregnancy.

Maybe just be vague and say "oh I've just had a few health issues lately." The men you work with probably haven't noticed and the women have probably guessed you're pregnant but will hopefully be polite enough to wait until you are happy to tell them. In my case it was pretty obvious by 14 weeks as my boobs had gone ginormous!! Although one of my male colleagues did ask my friend if I'd had a boob job... Congratulations and don't worry about what work people are thinking x

Holly, that's exactly what I have been saying but someone in my team still came out and asked! Cheeky cow.

I told people I had a bad back, it got them off my back!! In fact it helped me keep my duties light and if every I felt queasy I blamed the pain. I constantly got asked when I was going to have children and told that I was getting on! I had had a mc in this time and had undergone fertility treatment so I didn't want people gossiping about me (like they did the other ladies having troubles) so I just said I was enjoying life at the moment and left it like that. People don't realised how there nosiness effects people but I don't think they are trying to be mean xx

Ps Holly that made me laugh.