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Feeling very odd after sex...

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pinkbananabread · 05/02/2013 17:47

Am 37wks and DH and I had sex last night. It was actually ok during (!), but I felt really really odd after: almost like I was about to be ill (shivery, couldn't get comfortable in bed), and really anxious (heart racing etc).

Is this normal?!? Has put me off doing it again (the plan was to have as much as possible in the next few weeks in the hope of encouraging baby to make an appearance...!).

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frazzledbutcalm · 05/02/2013 21:59

It doesn't make baby arrive sooner. The only time that happens is if you have sex whilst in labour ..

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pinkbananabread · 05/02/2013 23:35

Er I think it does - the sperm helps soften the cervix doesn't it??

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chloeb2002 · 06/02/2013 01:55

My obs told me that the only thing proven to increase he chance of spontaneous labour is nipple stimulation... frequently as it releases oxytocin and encourages the uterus to contract. sperm contains prostins which may or my not soften the cervix. I believe from what I was told that the lots of sex thing is an unproven method... like hot curries etc. pinkbananbread.. I'm guessing your first bub... tell yourself that you re pregnant for 42 weeks. then you wont e so 40 week focused, most first bubs are at least 10 days late, regardless o what you do :0)

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pinkbananabread · 06/02/2013 12:20

Nope - second child. And sex definitely seemed to have an effect first time around (although she was born at 40wks so could well have just been coincidence!!). At the very least, it gives me the feeling that I'm doing something to speed things up...!

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goodbyekitty123 · 06/02/2013 19:09

That sounds like a panic attack to me. They can be triggered by a number of reasons. It doesn't mean it will happen next time. If you were lying on your back at all it may have been reduced blood flow- only other thing I can think it would be. Confused

frazzledbutcalm · 06/02/2013 23:30

No.... sperm only affects cervix when actually in labour. Seems pointless to me then as baby's on its way anyway. Despite knowing this, dh and I still had lots of sex during later stages of each pregnancy 'just in case' it worked! As pink said, it made me feel like I was doing something to speed things up. even though I knew it doesn't work!! Confused

goodbyekitty123 · 07/02/2013 09:34

I thought you were advised not to have sex during labour due to risk of infection??

ZipItShrimpy · 07/02/2013 09:37

Think that's only if your waters have broken Goodbye.

BourbonsandTea · 07/02/2013 11:23

I heard that orgasms can set off contractions and sperm softens the cervix. We DTD every day from 39 weeks, with foreplay every time, I had mild contractions or BH a few hours after each time and DD arrived at 39 +3. I know an anecdote does not prove a theory but it doesn't hurt to try and certainly makes waiting a little less stressful (unless, of course, you would find sex stressful) :-)
Try a different position next time. Eg, try propping yourself up with pillows if you like missionary so that you're not lying flat. If you get the feelings again speak to your midwife and don't be embarrassed - that's what they're there for. I hope you get to meet your little bundle very soon

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