Too late to contemplate a water birth at 38 weeks?

[iamwhaticallpregnant]

Hi everyone.

I have a little bit of an issue with childbirth - that issue being terror.

Because of this i haven't really given much thought to the labour other than I am open to all forms of pain relief and want my partner there. I avoid all programs about it and haven't read a lot about it other than the stages of labour and the signs of it starting. I am on a need to know basis.

Please don't ridicule or tear into me - but my biggest issue regarding labour is the exposure that is required - It is just the way I am. I am mortified at the idea of being naked, people (plural) seeing down there and my partner seeing me like that. In my head I just wanted the least amount of exposure possible so to be propped up in a bed with partner at the head end. I wanted to retain as much modesty as possible - which you might laugh at, but it is just the way I am. I am incredibly private, shy and embarrassed when it comes to being naked or exposed. I am the type who never gets changed in front of other people or would need to rev myself up for months to go to a smear test. I am anticipating replies of "YOU WILL NOT CARE!! YOU WILL NOT CARE!!" which is all anyone says to me but I can not take your word for it so let's say that I will care

So it's now 38 weeks and it is only just occurring to me that a water birth might be..... nice.
Is it too late to ask for one? (I understand that not everyone can have one depending on the birth and the hospital).
Is it better or worse when it comes to your modesty?

Please be kind....

Water birth sounds like a good idea to me-I'm hoping to try it this time. At my hosp it's just ask on arrival if the pool is available, so fingers crossed. I also found dimming the lights right down in the room helped me feel a lot more comfortable and less exposed last time - just ask the midwife they'll be happy to do this for you.

I also think maybe you should try to talk through your worries about exposure with your partner, as a lot of your concern seems to be about him seeing you exposed? Then maybe you can work out ways for him to help you feel more comfortable - he could maybe help by keeping you covered with a sheet / blanket for instance, whatever position you happen to be in, and be prepared if you do want him to back off a bit at some points? Also jojomamanbebe do some nice looking knee length wrap over dress/nightie things that might help you feel more covered up. Good luck!

Sorry just seen you said earlier dp is aware and supportive - doh!

thank you everyone. those are all good ideas - it is my partner that concerns me a lot (i dont know why) - and he says he'll be very supportive but your ideas are great and i have spoken to him again today. It may be the idea of him seeing me less than perfect (im a bit of a perfectionist i suppose) so silly i know.
good to know u can ask for the pool on the day. i will ask my MW when i see her this week if that is the protocol in this hospital.

ps. had no clue you could dim the lights!! that sounds FAB.