new pregnancy and being around sick children - ok?

[PavlovtheCat]

my friend has been trying for a baby for years. Including IVF treament x 2, with no success. Just as she has given up hope, she has, this morning had a positive pregnancy test, although suspected she was due to symptoms - YEY!!! absolutely over the moon for her, but it is very early days, 2 weeks and 3 days post period.

My back has gone, very badly, and she and her DH have kindly offered to come and look after the children this afternoon. They were coming over already, but they now know my back has gone (DH told them yesterday) so they are going to be the wonderful people they always are. They are very close to me, and to both of the children and would not avoid today if they can possibly help it.

So. that's just to set the scene as it's not simply 'cant come over today'.

DS has had a stinking bug. In itself, not hugely bad, DH has had one and been to see friend, when we suspected she was pg, and she was told in advance and happy for him to go over, she has a bug herself.

But, DS has been very poorly, and I am suspecting it might be more like the flu that a 'cold. V high fever yesterday snot, painful belly, etc. Today he is ok, medicine working ok.

But, I am worried that my friend might get a bug. She obviously can't take most meds she would normally if unwell, so there is that to consider if she gets this bug. BUT, is there a risk to her very tiny pregnancy if exposed to flu at this stage of pg?

Should I suggest she stay away? I don't want to do anything that would even vaguely put her at risk.

I have had two children, you would think I knew the answer!

Call her, tell her the kids are poorly. Let her make the decision and tell her you absolutely 100% understand if she doesn't come. Hope the kiddies are better soon.

I don't think she should come - flu + early stages of pregnancy is potentially linked to various things (including schizophrenia & possibly autism). It's not a straightforward link, and it's fairly early days research wise but I have been reasonably convinced by the research I have seen.

So if she can avoid exposing herself I think she should (if she can't fair enough, but in this case it sounds as if she can).

Don't let her come round!!!!

ok, It's as I thought. I will call her and tell her it's not ok. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't being silly/paranoid etc and actually it's really fine.

I think it's the fact that he has had stomach pain, v high temp, skin crawling etc and has taken a good few days to come out this bad, although he is much better today that makes me think it's flu rather than a cold.

I absolutely will not take any chances with her baby.

saintly yes she can avoid it, she wants to come and help, but I will manage without her.

I would put her off, she would almost certainly be fine, but wouldn't want to tame the risk. you must mean 4 weeks post period as 2 weeks post period would be when she ovulated ish. great news for her though!

sun I mean 2 wks post when her period was due and missed! just past the 2ww! sorry for the confusion!

I have just called her and said I didn't think it was a good idea as DS was poorly. She knew he was unwell, not as ill as he is now, but she would not have necessarily considered it herself. She thanked me and said if I needed anything from shops etc (paracetamol) she could get her other half to collect/drop it over.

I agree, probably she would be fine, but it's so early and still such a risky time, (and saintly I didn't know about those other links so thank's for the head up there too) it's better not to take any chances at all.