Hi. I was wondering if anyone could give me any calming words of advice/reassurance, or point me to where I can get some. I have suffered with general anxiety disorder and OCD for years and years - it comes and goes, and has been at its worst when I am stressed, and when I am pregnant. I struggled through my first two pregnancies, but they were pretty unpleasant experiences mentally, and after the last one I ended up in a big mess, which needed some serious counselling and citalopram, and took me a good year to get over. I think it happened largely because I had struggled so much throughout the pregnancy, that postnatally I just couldn't cope any more.
I am now pregnant with my third, very much wanted and planned for baby. And I am a wreck. I'm 12 weeks, and have spent the last 8 absolutely 100% convinced that it's all going wrong. Totally and utterly sure that every time I go to the loo I'm going to find blood. I have to psyche myself up to actually go to the loo, and then wipe myself over and over to make sure there isn't blood there (and I have convinced myself several times that there is, when there isn't). I had hoped that getting to 12 weeks would help, but it hasn't. I recognise that my thoughts and actions aren't rational, but I can't stop the negative voice in my head and it's "but what if's". Every twinge, or change in symptom or difference from the day before is a sign that it's all gone wrong and I'm losing the baby.
I've been seeing my GP on and off, and have a referal to the mental health nurse, but I really know that counselling on its own isn't going to be enough to make me feel well - in the past it has worked beautifully but only when I've taken the meds as well. The GP has given me a prescription for sertraline, and been through the whole risk benefit thing with me. The problem is that a lot of my anxiety centres around harm coming to the baby, and I an terrified that by taking the tablets, I am putting my baby at risk. I worry that I'm being selfish - how can I judge that it's worth the risk to the baby just because of my mental health being bad? And I'm so very very frustrated with myself that I can't just get over it and cope.
What frustrates me the most is that before I got pregnant, I swore to myself that if I felt my mental health slipping this time, I'd take the medication. But now, with the anxiety in full swing, I can't stop the negative thoughts from persuading me that it's the wrong thing to do.
I just don't know what to do with myself at the moment :(.