I'm scared and carnt get my head round it all :(

[Becky2406]

I found out Monday 14th that I'm pregnant with my 4th baby I'm so scared I have 3 daughters ages 8 , 5 and 4 I think I'm about 4 weeks but just not happy carnt get my head round it I'm scared I carnt tell anyone not even my closest friends as I'm worried they will be disappointed in me. I love in a 3 bed house but my husband dosnt work just me i work evenings and stay at home in the day but even at 4 ish weeks I'm exhausted !! I have no plan to go the docs at the mo as feel like I'm lieing please has anyone else been through this I need advice please help me
THANKYOU

I haven't been through this but wanted to send you a big hug. Your friends shouldn't be disappointed in you - if you were my friend I would want to be there for you and help/support you. I'm presuming from what you say that you haven't told your husband yet - are you able to sit and have a talk with him about it? I'm sure there are probably lots of lovely Mumsnetters with great advice but I didn't want to leave your post unanswered. Sending and a nice and another big hug.

Thank you so much for the reply I truly needed it honestly I'm lost but what I should say is my hubby dose know he's happy but for him it's good he wanted it he's been bugging me for one more for a while but iv never wanted to as 4 kids is just one to many I feel we need a new car put 3 kids in one room ! My oldest has openly said she dosnt want us to have another baby. I know I sound like I'm foucusing on all the negative but at the moment as I can't get my head round it its all I can do I keep saying it out loud to see if it sounds true but honestly it sounds as true as if I said the sky is green !! I'm so confused :(

Thank you for the flowers and coffee :) they are so sweet x

Thanks :)

sorry I'm trying to send you flowers back lol

Oo I did it lol

Thank you , I'm glad your dh knows and can support you, does he know how tired you feel? Is there a reason why he can't work & I totally appreciate that jobs are not easy to come by at the moment - but if he could it would take some of the pressure off you, especially as he's the one who really wanted another baby and you are already feeling exhausted. My neighbours have 4 kids in 1 room and somehow or other it works! I hope you get the support and rest you need and it would be lovely if you would keep posting on here, let me know how you're getting on, I can always send more and .

I will try my hardest to keep u updated is it best to keep coming back to this thread ? Or is there a better way sorry to be so clueless I'm new at this iv managed to start a thread but no ideas what else I can do lol I'm a pretty useless 32 yr old. It would be nice to get to know you better (hope that doesn't scare u off me saying that ) thank you for the support so far it's helped. X ps no no reason my hubby doesn't work he lost his job 2 yrs ago and hasn't found a job since then but he's prob not looking so hard !

I think you can private message me but I don't know how - I've seen it done on here before though and I'd be really happy to do that - it would be great to get to know you better too and a privilege to stand with you in this. Let me know if there's a problem with private messaging and I'll see what I can find out. I hope you've had a good day

Right I think iv done it iv sent you a message I think I just went to inbox on the top of the page and added new message to u hope it worked I look forward to your reply and getting to know you better thank you so much honestly u have no idea how much help it is to be able to talk freely to thank you x x