Fed up and taking everything the wrong way

[Emsyboo]

Sorry but just a moan really feel free to join in!

Had a hard time this pregnancy have placenta previa and an irritable uterus they think this was caused from retained placenta in my last pregnancy getting infected and scarring then after 3 infections needed a D&C more scarring.

Anyway I am 31 weeks and after a few hospital admissions have been on rest since 25 weeks.

I am just fed up ATM I can't drive, walk, lift or do anything but am supposed to be looking after DS as well as running a business I feel like I am doing everything badly and neglecting everything.

We have kept a lot of this pregnancy to ourselves but every time I talk about something someone upsets me.

Our plan has always been 3 children we don't know if this will still be the plan after this baby but I made a joke about baby names saying I would have to reconsider baby 3 to use the names we like on Facebook for my sister to put on my wall that I shouldn't have any more children as this pregnancy has been so hard on me and I should tell her the names so she can have another. This really upset me as it was so public and if we choose to have another baby it is our decision not hers also she knows we have been warned that because of the scarring we may have difficulties conceiving.

I then sent a list of all the names we had chosen - I like to have options to choose from to my mum who emailed back with a load if points making me feel like our choices were chavvy and she didn't like them.

I know I am probably taking everything the wrong way but is it too much to ask for people to just be nice and keep their mouths shut?

How is everyone else feeling? Is it just me?

Sorry to hear you're having such a hard time. You probably are a bit more sensitive than usual, but FWIW I think your sister was bang out of order posting something so private on Facebook.

WRT your name list - I got massively offended with MIL voicing her opinion on some of the names I like. Actually I STILL am massively offended! Provided they're not ridiculous and are unlikely to be the cause of bullying / name calling / teasing, I think that naming a baby should be the parents' decision alone. People who can't respect this should just butt out.

So - in summary - possibly a bit over-sensitive, but I can't really say I blame you!

I experienced a lot of judging when hubby and I were TTC and peospectively discussing names, I got so upset that when I finally fell pg, I decided our names were under lock and key. Nobody knows except me and hubby!

I've been over sensitive too during this pregnancy, it just goes with the package. Keep your chin up, choose the names privately and good luck to you :)

We kept it quiet as in laws upset me last pregnancy thinking up loads of ways in which DS's name would get turned into bullying but MIL is very unthiughtful and upsets people regularly.
Not shared any names with her but thought I was safe with my Mum have spoken to her and she has apologised and explained she didn't mean it as it sounded.
Having one of those days where I just burst in to tears tomorrow will probably be fine

Thanks ladies x x