ELCS booked for Thurs - scared to death and wierd feelings!

[Damash12]

Hi just looking for words of reassurance and comfort as feel I'm like a ticking bomb! I really wanted another baby but at this point I am terrified and worrying about everthing - I keep thinking I no longer want the baby, I won't love it then I get upset thinking something bad will happen and I could lose him, then how will I cope with a newborn and doing all the baby stuff again. I have a Ds of 4.5 and I'm really upset as I totally couldn't wait to meet him and have had the time of my life from the minute he was born but I don't feel that way about this one. Could it be hormones??? Really hope so. I seem to be thinking of all the difficulties that lie ahead and not the fantastic joy you get. Another thing bothering me which is a bit wierd is I'm scared to look at baby, I keep imagining myself not liking him or feeling nothing. I'm sure once I do see him I'll fall madly in love like I did with ds1 but really down about feeling this bad. oh and terrified of op and being cut open. Please tell me it will be ok!

I'm pregnant with my first, so I can't offer you any sage words of wisdom but didn't want to leave this unanswered. I do know it's completely normal to be worried about all these things with your DC2 as I've been on MN long enough to read other similar threads. Let's face it, it's a hell of a lot to process in a short amount of time. I'm sure everything will be absolutely fine on Thursday with the section. People who have elective sections seem to have really positive experiences, I'm sure you've searched for previous threads but if not, maybe do that. There'll be ideas for how to personalise the experience as well as words of reassurance hopefully.

Have you got any plans for today and tomorrow to take your mind off things?

Hi thank you for reply, feeling better this morning, I think the pregnancy insomnia/ hormones makes everything worse at night, when all you can do is think, think, think! Feeling more positive and he's got to come out one way or another so I may as well stop worrying about that bit. I just want it all to be as good as it was with my first Ds. Thanks again and good luck with everything to come.

Yes I think it is worse at night. Glad you feel a bit more positive this morning.

Hi. Just wanted to say that I had an ELCS for 1st DS and it's looking like it's going to be the same again. Mine was a really positive experience - yes, there's a bit of recovery time after but I really appreciated that the whole thing was just calm and organised. But in spite of the fact that it really couldn't have gone any better I am still a bit more afraid this time if that makes sense - I think it's something to do with having another child already - you feel the weight of responsibility for that child. And I think it's pretty normal to have these pangs about feeling the same about a 2nd child - it seems almost impossible to think you could love anyone as much as your 1st. I sometimes feel almost guilty that I might be about to disrupt our cosy little family. I'm also absolutely convinced that this wee one is going to be the spitting image of his brother so will get a total shock if he's not!
Good luck!!

Just wanted to say I had an ELCS on Friday and actually posted a really similar thread because I was cacking my pants! I can honestly say it was a fantastic experience. I had an amazing anaesthetist who was so calming and reassuring as we're all the other staff who were in the room. It's all about mind over matter and I'm a natural born worrier so if I can do it anyone can. And as soon as baby is born nothing else really matters because that's all you will focus on. Good luck for Thursday, and don't worry about living this new baby it's still just as amazingly overwhelming the second time around

Thanks Luby- that's exactly how I feel and l

Stupid phone - that's exactly how I feel.
Pipisout- congratulations, thanks for a positive post. I too am a born worrier and flit from worrying about 1 thing after another. Not long now and hopefully I'll be putting a positive post on here pretty soon too!

Hope everything went ok OP let us know how you got on if you get the chance.