Fed up of PEOPLE!!

[Missy28]

It may just be my hormones but has anyone else had the following annoyance?

I'm 19 weeks and people have started asking if I've thought of any names yet. When I reply saying yes and tell them what ideas we've had, lots of people have thought it appropriate to say the following things; 'oh that's very American', 'it sounds like a foreign persons name' and 'oh I don't like it'. Am I wrong to want to push them over and waddle away?! I think it's so rude to react like that and now I've stopped telling people.

If you can't tell, I've had a bad day and I'm fed up! Sorry to rant

I have to say, we've never shared our name ideas with anyone for that very reason. It takes so long to get names that you both agree on, I'm just not prepared to have someone ruin them for me.

The thing I find is that folk feel happy to criticise a name when the baby isn't here, but if you just tell them afterwards (e.g. my son is called x) then they usually just quieten down or say things like, oh, that's unusual, or what made you think of that? (you know they don't like it but its tough, they're named now, what can they say?)

I just tell people that we have a few idea's but we're not making any decisions until we see the baby, and see what kind of name is going to suit them :-)

It's your baby, you get to pick the name, don't let all the opinionated folk out there put you off!

Yep, familiar with that one!

Am 39 wks today and have had the name questions for quite a while. I normally say I have a list of possible names but haven't run it past DP yet, and there the conversation ends! I really don't feel like sharing potential names with anyone as it's hard enough without other people's 'helpful' input!

Which reminds me, I really should run that list of names past DP before the baby appears

Just you wait until they start asking why you haven't had that baby yet...

We learnt very fast to not discuss names. If anyone asked we would come up with something like peraguin marmaduke etc.

I found it intensely irritating. I'm 16wks and think we have almost decided but again I have no intention of telling anyone till baby is hear.

I have days when humans annoy me so much I just want to punch anyone I see in the face (lucky old DH).

But I agree with Twitchy in not sharing your name ideas, other than with closest, bestest friends or family (if you like your family, that is).

Have deffo just changed my mind. Baby is now called Peraguin Marmaduke! Ha love it :)

Thanks peeps you have calmed me down a little

Lol city me too!! Infact most days just recently I have shouted at someone for just being anywhere near me Haha x

oh i thought that was the first rule of having a baby, never tell people the name before he/she is actually born? :)

i am having the same with my pregnancy, we decided on a name when we first found out I was pregnant, I dont like telling people, not for negative reasons but I made the mistake of telling my unusual name for my last daughter and 2 other people decided to use it when they heard it. I was not impressed !!

Yup. I've been very vague about names. I just say we're whittling down from a long list but we can't possibly decide until we actually see the baby!

Despite all the warnings I'd read on here, DH we've told everyone who's asked and we've only had positive reactions. Except from MIL, but you can't win them all!

Shoot'em all!! .

Or alternatively, don't discuss your name choices with anyone other than the baby's father.
Being introduced to Pereguin Marmaduke (love it!) goes down better than discussing the name before the actual arrival of the person. Babies tend to just grow into their name and after a while nobody bats an eyelid at little 'Pocahontas' anymore (yes, I do know a RL one).

Oh this is so annoying. I find if I say "Nah we haven't thought of anything" people give me a face, and if I do mention our choices they are incredibly rude about them! I just go for the "Nah" option now, although yesterday I wasn't fully switched on and mentioned a name when asked only to get bemused silence (even though the name is very ordinary, nothing mad or anything). I can't understand why people don't realise that the ONLY polite thing to say is "Oh lovely!" no matter what you think of the name. How did they miss out on this vital piece of knowledge????

I'm 22wks pregnant and when ppl ask that question I'm quite vague because I don't really want their input or opinion so I just say we've a list but nothing definite or we're waiting to meet baby before we name them to be sure the name suits! You will pick a great name for your baby when it's born dont let other people's influence ruin this lovely time for you!

I think we will keep it quiet, I work with some (one) very opinionated people and whatever you say will be wrong. Our baby our choice of name.

Had a lot of this last time because we'd chosen an unusual name. We ignored everybody and used it anyway.
This time we've picked an unusual name that has great significance in dh's side of the family so people are far more respectful. If people are rude give it a bit of history to shut them up, or punch them!

Get used to it - since I had my DD I've wanted to slap at least one person a day for one reason or another!

People are just arses :-) I'm 22 weeks & am still sick of hearing ?are you mad?? ?You need your head testing? because its dc3 and my Ds's are almost 13 & 11 worth the wait as we are having our first DD so ha ha frikin ha to all the stupid arse ppl with their stupid comments lol xxx

People still commented after DS was born. He has a top 70ish name - not common but def not majorly unusual.

Both sets of gp didn't like it (they love it now!!) and even the cleaner in the hospital said 'oh, well you can always change it, my friend changed her son's name when he was 4'

When gp announced they weren't keen we just said 'oh well, good job you had 3 of your own to choose names for' and smiled nicely