Previous miscarriage, pregnant again, struggling.

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I had previous miscarriage and found it really difficult. Am now pregnant again. It sounds awful I know but I'm in late pregnancy and still haven't got my head round that I'm pregnant! Have closed off all emotion To it. How can I get my head round it? And quickly?

Hmm. Have you talked to your midwife about how you are feeling? I also had a previous miscarriage and am now 31 weeks. I'm just trying to not worry about what might happen and just assume that everything will be ok, as the statistics are on my side.

I don't feel massively connected to the baby yet - I'm delighted obviously and I enjoy feeling kicks etc but I don't talk to it. I am excited about meeting the baby.

Maybe try to visualise what life with the baby will be like?

No haven't talked 2 anyone bout it but my husband. Visualisation good idea. Will try that. Have been trying not 2 have any thinking time as I was so scared at the start. Thanx 4 reply.

How many weeks are you? I lost two babies before I had my first and remember feeling similar, just couldn't do any of the excited getting ready stuff, couldn't believe it when I went to antenatal classes and met all these people who just seemed to take it for granted that they would have a baby. It was only around 36/37 weeks that I actually felt I wanted to get things ready and then I couldn't wait. The emotion did come and in a weird sort of way, the fact that I hadn't enjoyed pregnancy much and had been scared helped with the newborn days as no matter how difficult it was, I found it infinitely easier being able to hold my baby, know how much I loved it and being released from the fear.

I'd second talking to your midwife, mine was brilliant.