Need alternative focus or I think I will go out of my mind!

[Bexy99]

Hello everyone,

I?m nearly 25 weeks pregnant and am now finding that the weeks are really dragging. I can?t seem to think about anything else other than the pregnancy/baby and I?m wondering if this is healthy. My partner and I conceived through IVF so I wonder whether I should be being a bit more cautious and perhaps I should stop letting myself get so carried away in case something goes wrong.

I?m wondering whether I need another focus? At the moment everything seems to be focused on the pregnancy. I?m due to start pregnancy yoga. I?ve submitted my maternity leave dates at work and they?ve already interviewed for my cover/replacement, which is a bit scary. We?re thinking about home improvements but this is also in preparation for the baby. I haven?t however started buying anything yet as I feel it?s too soon but I?ve been doing lots of research! Also, I?m losing motivation at work.

Before Christmas, the weeks went by really quickly as I had Christmas preparations to focus on, now it seems all I can think about is the baby, which means the weeks are going to really drag?

Does anyone else feel the same? Do you have any helpful advice?

Many thanks in advance for any help you can offer!

Congratulations on your pg. it is totally normal to be completely focused on your pg and your new arrival, especially when its your first and a much wanted child. Also loosing motivation at work is normal too.

If you want to focus on other things, why not sort out your home improvements and arrange a few nights or days out with your DH and some with your girlfriends, you may not get many for a bit after Lo arrives .

You are quite organised already but other things you can do are to put the numbers of the bfing helplines in your phone, find out where your local bfing groups are and go to them once your mat leave starts.

Your local nct might also run social groups, like bumps and babes which can be good for meeting some local mums and mums to be. If you volunteer with the nct it will also give you something else to focus on and will keep your brain ticking over whilst you are off work. You can find out what the local vacancies are by contacting your local branch through here

Are you reading any books too? Check kellymoms list of books to avoid . Can recommend Babycalming by Caroline Deacon.

If you want to do things that aren't baby related, have you thought of joining a book group or going swimming with a friend?