Too much to soon, 28 weeks.

[NewMrsH]

Hey,

I've been very reserved as a ftm as I'm quite scared but decided to hit the sales at 24 weeks to save some pennies. Our nursery furniture arrived today (yet to be built) and tbh we have everything else now too, I know I should be excited but I'm not?!?
I have been in his room and it scares me in case something happens and he doesn't come home. I can't even start to wash his clothes or make his room look nice and ready.
I'm due end of March and feel more scared now than I did before.

Would be greatful of any advice.

Xxx

NewMrsH, I'm first timer so can't really give you any advice but I think it's perfectly natural to feel this way.

I'm due in April and we've started to get quite a lot of things and are painting the nursery. I didn't think we'd start so soon but we wanted to spread the cost and as it's sale time it seemed to make sense. I worry that it's too much too soon but I remind myself these worries are completely normal and it helps me feel prepared so I can relax nearer the time to baby's arrival.

Try not to worry and enjoy it. It's an exciting time so let yourself be excited xx

I felt the same, but my DH persuaded me that it was ridiculous to buy nothing, and then have to rush out with a new born. As he put it, if anything happens now it will be devastating, whether or not you have done some shopping. That might not help, but him putting it that way helped me see the logic behind preparing in advance.

I was the same as you NewMrsH & if I'm totally honest the feeling never really went away as such, I just tried to put it to the back of my mind, to look after myself & focus on his arrival. A lot of my friends, people I met at parenting class & my midwives did say its totally normal to feel that way.

Agree with Teapig, try to relax & enjoy, the time will fly xx

I'm feeling the same at 29 weeks, finding it all very hard to do. We started painting the spare room today and we have a pile of flat packs which is the nursery furniture. worsetershire's DH is right though, if it goes wrong now nothing is going to make it any easier.

We've only just got the nursery set up for the little one to come home and I'm 38 weeks, I still occasionally think were tempting fate. We kept stuff in the boxes and I've only just washed the clothes and blankets. You've got ages to get the room 'ready' but it won't hurt to buy and store things especially because of the good deals and sales at the mo. A friend of mine kept everything in the garage till just before her date for c-sec. My DH said the same that it would be awful if something happened to your baby weather you had decorated or not. It's a hard one but you have to do what you feel comfortable with.