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need to get my head round this.

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seekingpeaceandquiet · 02/01/2013 17:35

Hi everyone, I have a dd 3 and am pregnant with no 2. Im 22 weeks and have had my scan and everything is ok. We found out we are having a boy this time and even though I'm thrilled we're going to have one each and dd finally convinced that shes not going to get a sister I still have to get used to the idea. So far just thought we'd have another girl.
Its been 2 weeks now that we have known but today when dh mentioned something about the baby boy I found myself doing a little double take thinking oh yeah we are having a boy not a girl.

I know this is extremely trivial but has anyone else felt like this and how did you get used to it?

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lauraellajane · 02/01/2013 17:50

I'm pregnant with no1 and just found out it's probably a boy (sonographer didn't sound v sure!)

It made me realise how much my daydreams have involved a baby girl as I did feel a bit disappointed. I've been doing a bit of reading about it and apparenty it's not uncommon (google gender disappointment).

I think I'm okay with a boy now, it's just a readjustment to day dreams. For me I think my initial disappointment stems from growing up with a mother who said she was terrified of giving birth to a boy, and because the males in my family are traditionally grumpy or aggressive people. (One of the common causes is having been abused by a man in the past, and I think this is where my mum's terror has come from. It sadly meant she treated me as the favourite child and my brother got the brunt of her tempers).

I'm getting over it by reminding myself that my little boy will have his daddy's genes, and my DH is the most wonderful, caring, amazing husband. And also there is NOTHING I can do about having a boy, and I'm damned if I'm going to let my preconcieved notions about men damage my precious son. I haven't discussed this IRL with anyone other than my DH as there's no way that I want it getting back to my son in future that his mum was disappointed he wasn't a girl.

Remind yourself about all the good things that a baby means, and disassociate these things from gender e.g. I'm looking forward to the feeling of holding that tiny warm body in my arms, the first smile, the baby grip.

Hope you come to terms with it soon and don't feel you're alone in this. It's probably good to talk it out with someone in confidence so you don't fester on negative feelings. And be confident in the fact that the vast majority of people appear to recover from this as soon as they hold their baby!

Good luck x

RugBugs · 02/01/2013 17:51

Watching with interest as I too have a DD and am pg.
The thought of having a boy is completely alien to me, I'm too used to being surrounded by pink!

lauraellajane · 02/01/2013 17:57

PS Never underestimate or discount the effect of mind-skewing hormones too...

seekingpeaceandquiet · 02/01/2013 19:02

Its not that I have anything against boys, when I was first pg with dd I actually wanted a boy (before I knew the sex).
I am about having a boy when I remember. Grin Although am freaked about the whole nappy changing issue.
Is it true they wee all over you when you take the nappy off?

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crunchingicicles · 02/01/2013 19:58

Haha, v easy solution to the nappy changing issue... Have a small baby flannel or something similar that you put over them as soon as the nappy is uncovering them. Wipe round, put new nappy under them, wipe the penis itself (new cotton wool/wipe - front to back wiping, just as with girls) & quickly pull new nappy over & do up. Also, make sure before doing up nappy that they're facing down (or when they wee they'll soak their tops). Always keep a handy small flannel in change bag. And remember, the spraying all over stage is relatively short. Phew!

lurcherlover · 02/01/2013 20:54

I secretly was hoping for a girl when pg with no1 but we didn't find out the sex. We had a boy and I was so happy he was here, but still wished for a girl - wouldn't change my DS for a girl of course but really hoped I would have a girl in future. As he grew I fell more and more in love with him and when I got pregnant again I had completely changed my previous perspective and wasn't bothered at all about the sex, having seen how brilliant having a DS is (and it's true what they say - little boys really love their mummies!) We found out the sex this time and I'm having a girl. I am so pleased and feel so lucky, but hand on heart I wouldn't have minded ds2. Congratulations ladies, you will love your little boys!

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