2nd time pg and nose out of joint because of insufficient fuss

[Sparklyboots]

.... well, that's me really. I am a generally bad tempered during pg but nevertheless enjoyed the fuss of my first pg; friends and relatives constantly concerned and in hero-worship mode; doe-eyed strangers giving me knowing looks; crowds generally parting to allow my passage unencumbered; seats hastily offered in any public place; regular offers of help with heavy or otherwise taxing activities. Now my friends and family are so enthralled with my toddler they barely register my presence; the only 'looks' I get in public are the your-toddler-is-irritating kind. I've yet to be offered a seat, a hand with my shopping or a knowing anecdote about sleepless nights, etc. Who am I to regale with details of my symptoms? Where are the incessant and unsolicted tips about staying fit, well and properly rested? Why is nobody concerned lest I exhaust myself in the course of my daily life? This is not helping my temper.

It is weird second time round you realise how much of the pregnancy stuff/advice out there is aimed at your first one. Eg lots about making sure you rest if you need to and take lots of time for yourself before baby comes, and when they're here nap when they nap. Not much about how to cope with morning sickness when looking after a toddler.

Having said that, I've still got an inner grinny glow about being pregnant.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. :)

I only realised what a fuss people made of me the day my son was born, when they started making a fuss of him instead. :o

It was all downhill from there. Mumsnet is a good place to get things off your chest.

Funny how different it is second time round. I keep forgetting I'm pregnant as my DS keeps me so busy!

Ha, I remember joking around about the fuss transference from me to new DS. Can't quite believe it persists even though I am pg! He and I had norovirus at the same time (and I had morning sickness too) but the fact that I was managing his vomit and diarrea while wracked by the same didn't seem to register with anyone - he puked all over my head once (we cosleep) and when I relayed this to family members they'd say, 'poor love - is he alright?' Yes, he's fine! Lying in YET another set of clean sheets all showered and fragrant sleeping it off WHILE I FISH BITS OF SICK OUT OF MY EARS AND HAIR. I can't remember anyone except my boss asking me how I was, and that was in the context of when-can-we-expect-you-back? so doesn't really count. Thank f* for MN...