Feeling so lonely!

[Pritchyx]

I'm 20+6, feeling so alone its unbelievable. Is being pregnant some sort of contagious disease which makes people stop contact with you?

Because that's what it feels like, I'm 18 and expecting my first in may, and ever since I've got pregnant my apparent "friends" haven't bothered with me.
I told my closest friends and not plastered it on Facebook either as I think it's inappropriate. But the ones who know only text me when they want to know something like what the sex of my baby is or when my next scan will be. They don't want to know me, or how I am, if I'm ok or anything.

None of them have bothered to see me, or to see how I'm coping - which would be fine if I had some support from friends.
My other half is an angel, he has helped out so much but I think he's now under too much pressure to keep me happy.

I honestly feel so alone and I can't stop crying :( has anyone else experienced this? Or just me going at it alone?

I was 17 when pregnant with my first I found this out myself, it was abit overwhelming at first because of age and I was use to having my friends around. But after I had my baby you get in with it its there loss and your baby becomes the most important thing to you and you get too busy to think about "false" friends.

I'm now 22 and expecting my 3rd child I.kept all my pregnancys off fb, but somehow this time due to gossaping false friends people are finding out who I don't even speak to. You definatly learn who your friends are when your a mum.

Aslong as you have an amazing partner and great family don't worry, I get a lot of support from mumsnet its great for that :) xx

Hi Pritchy.
Even though i am a lot older than u (30) i have experienced the same as you. I am the 2nd person in my group of friends to get pregnant and i dread to think what the first girl went through. The fact of it is that unless you have been through pregnancy you just cant relate to others who r pregnant. when the first girl was pregnant i assumed she was fine/wanted to be alone/that she was happy and pregnancy was easy. i didnt know what Qs to ask her. i wasnt interested in her scan photos and really was scared of the whole topic.
then i got pregnant and ihave never felt so alone and actually apologised to her as if i had known what it felt like i would have been much more supportive.

so tips would be:
1/ connect with other mothers using this website or netmums where u can meet mums in ur area of ur age. i went on this and it is fab.
2/ explain to ur friends how ufeel (they wont know)
3/ you have to suggest getting tofether cause they wont do it (they wont know how pregnancy feels and might think you want to rest all day or be at home with partner)
i know it seems unfair but they honestly wont get it.

i would suggest connecting with mothers as much as u can.it will help. and one day one of ur friends will get pregnant and they might apologise like i did :-)

you poor thing you will find these huge events - have strange effects on people, agree with iam above - try contacting them - as some of them may not know how to approach you...

same as im - i was also one of first preggers and also alot older than you - its caused a seismic change in relationships, esp effected those who were single....

it happens - try not to feel too down as iam says - try other routes to find people in similar circs to you like an nct group.