Advice on how to tell family?!

[PhieEl06]

So boyfriend & I are expecting (very unexpected for us) & after overcoming the initial shock ourselves we need to tell his family. My parents know however we're finding it really difficult to tell his as well, this is really the last thing they'd expect from us so its difficult to get onto the subject but we need to do it ideally before NYE as we're spending it with them at a party & they will be very curious as to why I'm not drinking. Also 11 weeks tomorrow & starting to as my friends describe it get a visible podge. This is causing me more grief than telling my own parents so some advice on how to approach this would really help.

Why are you both so worried? Are you really young/not been together very long/do they disapprove of you?

Will this be their 1st grandchild?

sorry for all the questions, may offer some options, that's all!

A nice card addressed to the 'Grandparents to be' could be nice?

I'm 18 he's 22, we've been together over a year, no we get on really well, but that's why I'm worried, BF is worried that they are going to "blame" him, & I'm worried that it will ruin my relationship with them/won't be welcome as part of the family. It will be their second, his sister has a little girl who is 2 now, she was 23 when she was born so not much difference in their ages.

I'm in exact same situation, although its other way round for me, OH mum knows, but wasn't intentional on her finding out cause I wanted to tell my parents first, but still can't find courage to do it although think they know but just havnt said xx

I found telling my parents difficult but I am glad I did, they have been fantastic, I hope you find the courage soon beckie90, it certainly feels like a weight lifted off your shoulders. I told my mom first & let her tell my dad for me as I couldn't do it.

I know I've been there before but told them after 3 days, there reactions from then has made me this nervous this time. My mum was always ok but it really did upset her lol and my dad just didn't speak to me for at least a month. So thats why I'm dreading it so much, although it does change after the initial shock and they love been grandparents. It's just the telling them part which is the worst x

I was scared to tell my folks and I was 33! If you're both happy about it I would announce it happily - partners arm around you, beaming, say 'we have some great news' etc. I think if you demonstrate positivity and happiness they're more likely to be happy too :-) congratulations!

I agree with double - maybe start with, this wasn't totally planned but, we are really pleased that we are having a baby - or something along those lines maybe?

It may take them a little time to get used to it, but if you get on well, I'm sure that will continue as your pg progresses.

Congratulations & good luck