AFTER 4 YEARS I AM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Slink]

Anyone who has read my threads will know that i have been trying for 4 years well i am 6 weeks, took a test today told dh and did not get the responce i was hoping for, he has not mentioned it again, i am thinking all those times he said " if it happens it will" he was hoping it wouldn't, he was keen. I am filled with mixed emotions, will my dd 4 feel neglected will i still give her time and love and will she hate me???????????????????????? god is the gap too big??? plus i am rh - and worried???????????????

I hope the gap is not too big dd is 5 and ds 3 weeks (it took us a long time too!) it is probably a shock to him

ps congratulations !

Congratulations, my sister has a gap of 7 years between her 2nd and 3rd.
Maybe your DH is a bit nervous and once the news sinks in his attitude might change?

Congratulations :) Dh is probbaly having mixed emotions like you are. And no, the gap is not too big, she will love the idea of a baby sister (because if she is anything like my dd, it will have to be a sister )

Oh Slink, congratulations! I am so happy for you.

Congratulations! I am 6 weeks too and my dd will be 6 when this one is born, you can't help but worry can you? but i'm sure things have away of sorting themselves out. My dh said Oh shit, which was a bit of a surprise. I won't tell you what my mother said.

thank you for the quick responces as i am dying to tell, but should wait till the 12 weeks????? i hope it is just shock, glad to know the gap is not a big deal, i think the blow has come as i start work on wednesday money would be handy and now finally pg, but we managed before we will again.

thanks again xxxx
Gothis mama congrat on your 3weeks little one.

lucy 5 looking forward to sharing the highs and lows with you.....congrat tooxx

Congrats, don't worry the gap is not too big your dd will be fine, don't worry about your dh either, like others have said he's probably just in shock too, congrats

There is a due in December thread going if you are interested. looking forward to sharing the highs and the lows with you too.

dd wanted a sister but said todya she 's glad to have brither cos he's cute!!

Huge congratulations, Slink. I am sure your dp is just shocked and will come round soon. And your dd will love her little sibling. My dp is seven years older than her sister and they couldn't be closer.

Have a wonderful pregnancy

congratulations!

my ds was 9 when dd was born, its awesome
Well done you :)

congratulations! dh is probably in shock lol.

dont worry too much about being rh- do you know your dd blood group? did u have anti-d after her birth? i am rh neg and have had 3 normal pregnancies, and they are all rh-pos so each time i got jabbed.

Oh Slink!
What lovely news!!!

Congratulations Slink!
Your DH sounds like mine. He didn't jump for joy when I found out I was pg with DD, not because he didn't want me to pg but because he has this self preservation thing ... he didn't want to get his hopes up (or mine) too early because 'anything' may happen IYSWIM? I don't want to put a dampner on your pg but that is probably why he is reacting like this!
Re. age gap ... I have a 4 year 2 month age gap between my two and IMO there are pros and cons with all age gaps ... With small age gaps you have to deal with newborns AND toddlerdom at the same time, maybe toddler still in nappies, toddler needing feeding etc .... and you are probably really tired all the time ... the pros being that your 6 year old and 4 year old are good playmates ...
With bigger age gaps the pros are that you have a child who is toilet trained, feeds herself, probably sleeps all night and is dry at night too ... and will also wait half an hour to do something with you while you feed the baby (will understand the concept of "mummy just needs to feed the baby so when I have finished we will do xyz")
The cons are that you feel like you have taken a big step back into babydom just when you were getting used to going out without nappies, wipes, pushchair etc ... also sometimes life can be a bit restrictive in that you can't just do things spontaneously - the baby's feeds and naps have to fit in somewhere and it isn't always convenient ...

Pros and cons for all gaps.

My DS is now 6 and a half and DD is 2 ... it has been a long road but they are good friends and he is lovely with her and is sooo patient with her tantrums (most of the time ) ....

He just spent the morning helping her on an easter egg hunt around the house ... it was sooo sweet watching him find the eggs then pretend he hadn't found them but pointing her in the right direction

i loved my six year gap ...forget taking steps back ...its steps in the right direction well done you and congratulations!

when I told dh I was pregnant after a 10yrs of waiting (yes 10 !!!) he didn't say anything .He was in such shock and I think fear that if he got excited he would put a jinx on it.He became excited only when I started to show .

Our age gap is 11 yrs between dd and ds.Not ideal or how we would have planned it but lovely all the same.

Congratulations.

Thank you all all so much, well dh was happy about it all today but did say that as i had bad birth with dd (i was in pain hated to see me like that) he would not be at this one... so thats fine.

I did have the anti d injections as dd is rh pos so just fingers crossed now, he has said don't tell as he is worried about the 12 week thing, as am i.( But did tell my friend down the road)
God i start my job on wednesday after being a sahm.

Lucy not sure about the dec thread just want to get to june savely. good luck to you.

thanks again all xxxx

Congratulations! Great news
My sister is 5 years younger than me & we are best of friends!

!!!Congratulations!!!

Congratulations!