Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Spd/Irritable uterus/High risk, totally incapacitated.... need a moan

11 replies

Doraemon · 23/12/2012 10:17

As it says, need a moan, although any ideas on how to survive virtual bed rest without going insane gratefully received.
I'm 29 weeks, high risk due to 2 previous prem babies (now 5 and 7, DS1 has ASD and really struggling with Xmas/end of term/teacher leaving/mummy not well/fear of Father Christmas coming). I have an irritable uterus and a bit of SPD. Basically whenever I stand up for more than about a minute, walk anywhere, go up or down stairs etc I get contractions (not full on labour-type ones but worse than Braxton Hicks) and SPD pain down my left leg. Baby's head is already right down and cervix starting to efface, I'm to go straight into hospital if contractions get stronger/more regular - as long as I do nothing they're not bad at the moment but it's meant effectively I'm stuck on the sofa or in bed.
I know it's much better to have me at home, unable to do anything but still pregnant rather than have to be in and out of hospital or to go into labour this early. It's just so frustrating. Dh is off work until Jan 2nd thankfully but normally he is working long hours and I do 90% of the household stuff, so he's not used to having to do all the cleaning/cooking/dealing with children and I hate having to keep telling him what needs doing while I lie there feeling useless. I'm doing as much with the boys as I can (board games, reading to them etc.).
I'm just a bit fed up really, would love to get to 34 weeks or so in the hope of avoiding SCBU but the thought of another month of this is really depressing.
Moan moan moan!

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
usernamegoeshere · 23/12/2012 15:13

aw you poor thing, that sounds really annoying no wonder you need a moan! I don't have any advice though am afraid, but probably someone in same boat will be along soon with tips!

nananaps · 23/12/2012 15:23

Waves hands..."same boat as you here".

I could have written your post.

useless..yep
bored.yep
fed up..yep

BUT i am 34 weeks. Been at this since about 30 weeks now.
Sad
Sad
Sad

Doraemon · 23/12/2012 18:06

Wow 34 weeks! Well done :-) how are you managing to stay sane?

OP posts:
PipIsOutNow · 23/12/2012 18:19

nana I'm in your boat! 34 weeks too and totally fed up of being in pain/contracting 24/7. Can't sleep, can't even walk to the shop, I'm completely useless. Measuring 38 weeks and feel as if I might explode if this baby grows much bigger. :(

nananaps · 23/12/2012 18:37

Struggling completely.
I dont have other small kids to deal with though, my boy is 9 so pretty self sufficient and VERY helpful bless him.

Its these blasted "tightenings", they are not Braxton Hicks they are not contractions, but can be back to back, and very uncomfortable, take my breath away.
I get them if i stand up, sit down, need a wee, even at night when relaxing in bed!

The back pain and hip pain relieved with laying in a perfectly straight line with my head slightly elevated. (cant breath if i lay flat)..frustrating as hell as i am a "doer", not used to being so disabled.

Just take everyday as it comes. Get through another day, another day, another day i spose.

Not the romantic picture i had of carrying this precious baby!
On countdown now though, 4 weeks left to go!

ashiramartin · 23/12/2012 18:50

33+5 here with three kids under five, and have already lost my sanity even though mums moved in to take over. Kids are all not well with high temp cough etc so its a great comfort to know there are others out there who can relate to my frustration. I'm on antibiotics to clear up a UTI which is causing my contractions yet i'm feeling worse day by day rather than any better. I keep screaming at the very people who are trying to help me because i'm feeling so rotten! Cant wait for this nightmare to end! Hope time speeds up for all of us.

Doraemon · 23/12/2012 20:24

I think 3 under 5 would challenge my sanity regardless of pregnancy!

Nana the 'tightenings' sound very similar to mine, much stronger than just Braxton Hicks, have to stop moving and breath (last time I tried walking to get the boy from school I ended up leaning over a fence post half way home - had to resort to driving less than half a mile for the last few days of term, and even steering round corners can set them off), but they're not (usually) like actual labour contractions which I remember as radiating down the top of my legs and around my back.
DS2 was born at 34 1/2 weeks after I had labour stopped at 29 weeks and he was fine, came home after 4 days, so I would love to get that far this time, but the end of January does seem a long long way away.....

OP posts:
Emsyboo · 23/12/2012 21:41

Feel sorry for you I am in a similar boat have complete placenta previa and end up bleeding if I do anything last bleed was from hoovering the living room the one before was pushing a shopping trolley round Tescos.
I'm only 28 weeks and completely fed up feel I am neglecting DS DH is useless at housework so driving me mad the house is a state and feel like people are judging me as a drama queen but I would live to do more just too risky.
Can't offer advice but hoping someone will come along with some gems to cheer us up x

ICompletelyKnowAboutGuineaPigs · 24/12/2012 08:54

I've had a few episodes of bedrest due to injuries/surgery over the past couple of years, though totally unrelated to pregnancy.

It is incredibly boring and it feels like a real waste BUT it doesn't last forever and once its over you'll barely remember how bored you were/messy your house was/how little you did with your children. I felt hugely guilty not being able to do all the things that I usually did but everyone understood - obviously you're not doing it on purpose!

I did read and watched a lot of tv and did sitting/lying down stuff with DCs etc but I also downloaded loads of pain relieving/body healing hypnotherapy/meditation stuff from Audible. I know it might sound a bit new agey but I was in lots if pain/frustrated and was willing to try anything! I really feel they helped me stay sane and feel like I was doing something however small to help myself feel better. Not sure if that helps at all but hope you all feel much less bored/frustrated etc soon.

nananaps · 24/12/2012 14:17

That made me laugh "Drama Queen" thats exactly how i feel!!

I am SO NOT a drama queen usually either so its completely mad. DH keeps calling me princess which makes me want to punch his head.....also feeling antisocial and short tempered Gahhhh!

ashiramartin · 24/12/2012 15:16

34 weeks tomorrow just trying to keep my legs crossed until then so baby cant escape. Still hoping to get to 35 weeks though. Dead Jealous of neighbour who just gave birth to twins at 39 weeks!

New posts on this thread. Refresh page