Newly pregnant and very worried :(

[Gingerbreadpixie]

Hello. Newbie here. Husband and I have discovered in the past few days that we're expecting a baby. 4 pregnancy tests confirm :)

It's all happened very suddenly as we only got the go-ahead from the hospital to TTC 2 and a half weeks ago! so its v early days. I am 34, T1 diabetic, hypothyroid.. Oh and have had a cone biopsy on my cervix. So I've had to go through quite a lot of tests to get myself ready and was fully prepared for conception to take up to a year or not even happen. So I'm in shock right now and feel very unprepared.

The problem is I feel pretty panicked about what could or couldn't damage the baby. I know it's not actually a baby yet as its been detected so early (period would have been due today) and that the pregnancy may not even last. But I feel so scared! For instance, today I was in a situation where I was in someone's home that absolutely reeked of bleach. I wasn't there long but cried all the way home because I thought I must have breathed it in and poisoned the baby. Part of me knows this is irrational and part of me is just scared and clueless. Any words of reassurance or help would be gratefully received. Thanks

your placenta hasn't taken over yet so what's in your blood isn't in theirs just yet, it's still living off the sac - so you're okay - congrats

Thank you jinglebelly! Maybe I need to read up on the developmental stages more as I did not know that.

I'm sure the shock will pass soon and I'll become more relaxed and less terrified!

I keep peeing on sticks to make sure it's still there. It makes me smile to see that pink line get stronger and stronger every day :)

Try not to panic, babies are very resilient and are designed to cope with women not knowing they are pregnant for a little bit and are made for that! I'm 32 weeks now and smoked and drank until I found out as wasn't ttc and this little one is doing well! Try to relax and enjoy it! And congratulations xxx

Thats lovely news, relax and look forward to your future and I'm sure everything will be fine

Babies have to be strong to get through. If you lose it there's little you can do or will have done to bring it about.

I don't know - try to relax; there's a long way to go. The only things I'd not ignore in terms of contaminating your baby are: no alcohol or limit to third trimester, as few drugs as possible, raw meat or fish, those fish high in mercury and soft cheese (everyone says 'I've never get food poisoning from cheese so why would I now?' - your immunity drops; that's why, and listeria can cause stillbirth).

Congratulations!

Thank you all for your replies. I don't have any pregnant friends and will have to keep the news under wraps for a good while yet, so it's nice to have a forum to chat about things and ask questions.

Trying to relax now by wrapping Christmas presents!

EugenesAxe Thank you :) I accept that sometimes pregnancies slip away and that sadly it's mother nature's way sometimes. I think what's frightening me is the thought of damaging it by my own actions somehow. But I also know that if I keep on feeling this way I'll be full of fear and worry and that certainly won't do us any good!

Also, I've learnt that turning to "Dr Google" for advice is just asking for trouble when I'm feeling so fragile! So many horror stories. DH says he's cutting the Internet connection if I carry on!

On the plus side, because of my diabetes I have a pretty healthy diet and didn't drink much anyway.

Congratulations

Ban yourself from google starting from now. Mumsnet instead people often don't find out their pregnant till 3/4 months gone so have carried on drinking / smoking and their baby's have been fine. Now you know your pregant carry on as normal until you see your mw/dr just cut out smoking / drinking and maybe switch to decafe. Relax, enjoy Christmas this time next year they'll be a little person in your life

Pinkyp thanks :)

Yes, I guess if I hadn't found out for another couple of months I wouldn't have even registered the bleach incident. I am absolutely staying away from google now and sticking with sensible mumsnet!

Hi gingerbreadpixie

Congratulations!! Theres a thread for t1 diabetics that i was very happy to find :) all the ladies are lovely and helpful. Its title is type 1 diabetics step over here sorry not sure how to add a link.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Try to relax as babies are really tough little things. As for online info, I have found mumsnet and BabyCentre the best for being the most reliable and up to date.

Hi Ginger and congratulations!
I am 34 and 13 weeks pregnant with baby #1, so I am a little further along than you but I completely feel where you're coming from with the worry.
What I have realised in the past 9 or so weeks since finding out is that it is completely normal to worry about the slightest little thing. These early weeks are a really testing time so don't beat yourself up about it but do try to arm yourself with the knowledge of what is normal and what is not, and what is viewed as safe and what is not. Google can be your worst enemy but it has also taught me loads when used correctly - if you Google scare stories you will get them, but there is also so much reassuring factual information available. I have found Mumsnet forums have helped because you can ask questions of others in a similar situation

Welcome to motherhood! It is natural to worry I am exactly the same and worry about every little thing to do with my pregnancy and DS.
Try to categorise your worries as some things you can't do anything about and will just cause you undue stress. Some things you can do things about do doing them will help and other things may be irrational hormonal fears working out which is which is key and mumsnet and other support networks can help you.
It is early days so fingers crossed for this pregnancy ( I worried so much at this stage a little irrational on my part as there is little you can do but perfectly natural) and congratulations you will be a great Mum as you obviously care a lot

It's very early days, its always a long long wait til week 13. For now just try and forgot about it, relax and enjoy xmas otherwise its going to be the longest 13 weeks of your life! And as someone has said, there is nothing you can do other than don't drink and smoke, take folic acid and try not to lift things.
Congratulations and merry Christmas!

Try not to worry - I'm currently 38 weeks and put my bean through 10k races, mud runs, bucket loads of wine, saunas and jacuzzis before I had any idea I was expecting. What will be, will be. A cool and calm mum to be will be the most beneficial thing for you both.

Congratulations!!

Thank you all for your lovely replies!

I am trying very hard to forget about it and not focus on it too much at this early stage but being T1 diabetic it's a little difficult with all the blood sugar testing and fingers like pin cushions! :D

I think Emsyboo's advice of categorising worries into those I can't help and those I can't is a good idea. I had a good long chat with MIL last night as my own mum is feeling quite low at this time of year (my younger sister passed away from anorexia in 2010, it's still quite raw). MIL has had 6 kids and was really sweet. We decided it would be good to get a little notebook and jot all my fears/worries down. Then I could take the book to my GP/diabetic prenatal nurse and not have them constantly swimming round my head.