Gender: I know & he doesn't want to.

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Anyone else in the same situation?

I wanted to find out this time, as I didn't with DS. I also want everything to be different about this pregnancy (DS was born very prematurely). I've also struggled a lot psychologically with this pregnancy, mainly due to DS's early arrival, but also because of 2 recent miscarriages. Knowing the gender has helped me "bond" with the pregnancy.

But DP is adamant he doesn't want to know. So I don't feel I can share my happy news. And I have an attic full of boys clothes I won't need (yes, it's a girl!!).

He won't change his mind! Anyone else in the same situation?

Yep.

We didn't find out with #1, but I found out with #2 since I also wanted to help myself bond with it, which it did. I've know for around 12wks now and DH still doesn't want to know.

I don't find it an issue. I quite like knowing the secret and DH not knowing: just imagining his face when he finds out is lovely. I've bought some things, but hidden them away.

I don't feel the need to try to get him to change his mind tbh. This way, we're both happy, and he'll know soon enough anyway. If he were to find out or feel pressured into asking, he'd be upset, so I don't want to try.

I find pregnancy quite 'exposing' anyway, in the sense everyone asks after your health the whole time, so having a secret shared by only me, my doctor and the baby is lovely.

I'm planning to find out in a couple of weeks with this pregnancy (8th pregnancy, 2nd child!) so that I can feel more pregnant and that its real. But DH doesn't want to know.

I might accidentally tell him or how can I get ready? I don't want to have to only buy white and cream if I know I can buy blue / wash all the pink

Good to hear other's experiences! I think I will buy some girl stuff later on, especially a wee "coming home from hospital" outfit, as I want that to be special. I will also order a girlie pram, as DS's is very boyish. And perhaps some muslins, bedding etc. Just the basics.

These things, while normal for others, are big things for me, as DS spent 3 months in hospital, and by the time he came home, I was a wreck. So there was no joy in picking things for him. I am so desperate for things to be different this time.

I think I will tell my younger sister, for strategic reasons. It's so that she can help me get the boy's stuff down from the attic. Without exaggeration, I have at least a dozen black bags full of boys stuff that I'd like to sell (so that I can buy a pram & girlie stuff!!!). If DP catches me doing that, he'll know it's not a boy!

I don't expect him to change his mind, nor can I try to influence that. It would have been nice to tell our families on Xmas day, but hey-ho.

Sounds good - glad you feel you can tell your sister (I know that if I opened the floodgates, everyone would end up knowing other than DH!!).

Enjoy the shopping!!!

I'll have to be showing ultimate restraint!!! Would love to tell my mum, but I think she'd let it slip, accidentally.

Am really enjoying online pram searching!!!!

I'd find that incredibly difficult! Last pregnancy my grandmother didn't want to know, and I was definitely respectful of that but within about an hour I accidentally let a personal pronoun slip (as I'd just become so used to talking/thinking about 'him', rather than 'it') and that was that.