Still not excited ????

[Scaredmumtobe]

I'm 32 and expecting my first baby something I have always wanted. It's now finally happened and I'm with a fantastic man. But I haven't been excited even today after having my first scan today still no excitement??? Is this just me or is this normal for some people?

I'd say its completely normal.Its really hard to relate until you've got an actual baby in your arms. For me I didn't even feel like I was a 'real' mum until DD was born and even then it was a feeling that built up over time. I remember leaving the ward thinking 'they're not actually going to let me take this home are they?'. Everyone expects you to be so excited and thrilled about something that often barely feels real. Don't worry and don't beat yourself up about it.Its normal

I was starting to think I wasn't normal as everyone else around me is so excited. I feel alot better thank you

Normal I think. For me it didn't start to feel real until I was getting booted in the ribs, but I was still in denail when I was in labour I think!

When DS was born it was a hell of a shock. I think I said 'where did you come from?'

(and i know i'm not the only one to have done this!)

I've only just begun to feel twinges of excitement (at 25 weeks) and even that is fleeting and interspersed with 'I don't want a baby! What am I going to do with a sodding baby?!?' moments. But, I've always been ambivalent about having children...

Feeling the kicks, having a noticeable bump, etc helps with the excitement level though. I also think hormones begin to kick in around the half way mark to make you want to plan/ nest, etc as I'm, very uncharacteristically, beginning to feel those urges!

Anyway, don't feel bad for not being 'normal'! There's no such thing, and however you react to your pregnancy is absolutely fine (and normal). I remember feeling how you do around the 12-wk mark (basically when we told people and they all seemed much more excited than we were). Since then, I've just been trying to go with the flow of how I feel (physically and emotionally) and trying to 'observe' rather than 'judge' those feelings and that's helped stop me being hard on myself or freaking out for not feeling how I think I'm supposed to be feeling. In all, I'm quite enjoying the journey yet am fully expecting a reaction like TeamBacon once the baby makes its appearance.