Longest 12 weeks of my life...

[SourSweets]

Hi fellow-preggos.

Anyone have any tips on how to get anxiety under control? Every single twinge I am worrying that something's gone wrong, some days I can't see how I'm going to get to the 12 week scan without being a raving lunatic. Had an early scan at 6+3, saw the heartbeat but already want another scan to see it again. Probably feeling anxious is partly due to all the hormones, but does everyone feel this worried? Having trouble sleeping and constantly googling!

Thanks!

Hi SourSweets,

I can't offer any help at all but just wanted to let you know I feel exactly the same.
I'm just coming up to 8 weeks and cannot stop worrying. Ive convinced myself that there must be something wrong or even that the tests must be wrong and when I get to the scan they'll be nothing there!
Am slowly going insane! xx

I'm still the same at 34 weeks!! We must just be born worriers! Soamy of my friends are so laid back and relaxed whereas I have spent this whole pregnancy worrying about everything!!! It does get easier once you can feel baby moving though if that's any consolation!

*so many

Hi 34 weeks and exactly the same, still think something will go wrong, or anxiety that I won't cope or I won't love him. I think hormones cause massive anxiety and I keep having to remind myself of that. Did any of you suffer with anxiety when due your monthly cycle. I did and would be no how for a few days. Well same hormones kicking around but for 9 months so kinda no wonder we feel bad. I'm sure there's a link.

This is my third pregnancy and I've been more anxious with this one than either of the other two. DC1 was unplanned and I had no idea about the sort of things that can go wrong. DD was planned but I got pregnant immediately and took it for granted everything would be ok. With this one we tried for a few months and during that time I was on the TTC forum hearing about some of the sad things that can happen in pregnancy. Sometimes knowledge isn't a good thing I think.

I'm now 22 weeks and am regularly being kicked so feel much better about everything. I also use the Natal Hypnotherapy Pregnancy Relaxation CD and have found it very helpful.

Hope Christmas and new year bring you lots of distractions from the worry.

I think it's completely normal!! I'm 10+2 (not confirmed, going by my dates could be a few days less!!) and am waiting impatiently for my 12 week scan. It isn't helped by this being an unexpected pregnancy (took us 15 years to have no2 and now that I'm 38, we just thought we wouldn't be that lucky again!!) so it all feels unreal and like it's happening to someone else. We also had a terrible pregnancy last time (TMI but heavy bleeding throughout so spent most of it in hospital) so I panic every time I get a twinge or even just expecting blood every time I go to the loo.

I just want to see that everything is ok, but it is taking forever to get there!!

So totally normal, think it should be against human rights to only see a wee glimpse of the baby twice in the pregnancy. I know I'm being sexist but I often think if it were men doing the carrying, they'd have figured out a state-of-the-art scanner that you could use in Boots for 50p.

Stop blimmin' googling by the way - google and pregnancy are a no no!

In the nicest possible way you need to get a grip! I don't mean that horribly, I mean that you have to try and enjoy the pregnancy or you are going to have a miserable 9 months. Yes it is normal to worry, especially the night before scans, but I suggest that rather than worry obsessively you focus on keeping yourself healthy and eating well. That way your baby has the best possible chance and you will know that whatever happens you did everything you could for him/her.

Also, keep off pregnancy forums and the internet as they are full of people's sad stories and worries. Just remember that those having an easy pregnancy are less likely to post as they don't need to ask for advice.

soursweets I think you just have to tell yourself that worrying isn't going to change anything and that there is nothing you can do to influence the outcome.

You might find looking at the stats helpful - I think after seeing a HB at 6 the chances of live birth are around 80% rising to 95-8% at 8 weeks - so the odds are truly in your favour.

Echo the advice to stay off pregnancy forums (apart from this one!). Good luck

I'm the same am 5+5 today and not feeling any symptoms at all now. Ms as stopped and boobs aren't sore anymore. Am petrified of a mmc.

I'm exactly the same and am at 20 weeks. You think you'll get to your next scan then relax but you just don't. I had my 20 week scan yesterday which was all clear so I'm trying to chill out as much as I possibly can. If my anxiety levels stay high I'm going to look at meditation etc.

Thank you for all your messages, I feel much better knowing that it's normal to worry and not a bad sign. JollyB those stats are excellent news, I didn't know it was that high after seeing a heartbeat! Thank you! LoveYouForever I had the exact same thing, woke up one morning and had no symptoms, thought my hormones had stopped but they returned in 2 days time. I will definitely try to stop googling, you are all right on that one! Feeling a lot better after talking to my friend who recently had a little boy, I thought she was so confident in her pregnancy but she had actually been worrying the whole time.

Thank you for all advice and good luck everyone with your continuing pregnancies!

xx