Fed up of smugness

[Willothewhip]

Perhaps it's because I've only had about three hours sleep for the last few nights (I'm 36 weeks with SPD and finding it difficult to get comfortable/breathe/digest anything/turn in bed), but I am getting really infuriated with the men in my office telling me how much worse things are going to be after my baby arrives in a really smug know-it-all way:

a) they have never been pregnant so have no idea what we go through
b) they confess they let their wives get up to the babies in the night - so how can their nights be so terrible anyway

c) what is it with people, male or otherwise, that makes them feel so entitled to share such negativity with a first time mum to be four weeks before the baby arrives?

I just want to say STFU and let me have my own experience of my baby which will not be the same as your's.

Sorry, hormonal rant over. Glad to get that off my chest.

No it will be much easier when the baby arrives ime.

Its the ones who go on about sleepless nights when I had pregnancy insomnia .

They are twats who think they are being funny.

From my experience it is much easier post birth when the insomnia is not your own body, the bed is comfortable and you have the baby to cuddle. They're talking crap.

Oh men never say anything positive about newborn babies in my experience

Don't pay any attention.

And you SHOULD say STFU and let me have my own experience of my baby which will not be the same as your's. - because you are right!

1, you have done amazing to get to 36 weeks and still be working when you have SPD.

2, if you are getting crap sleep in pregnancy then you will be so much more likely to cope with night time parenting in the early weeks.

3, soon you will have a wonderful little baby in your arms and won't care less what the prats in the office think.

Argh! I had this all the time but from women more than men - even on here!! I would suggest you tell them to stfu but... I tried everything from polite chat to freaking out and it had no effect.

The only thing that sometimes worked was to say firmly that I may or may not feel worse post baby but that's post baby and right now I feel like shit so please leave me alone.

You have all of my sympathy.

I'm 34 weeks and could have listed exactly the same symptoms. The only difference is I stopped work 3 weeks ago. Bugger that, I couldn't sit for more than a few hours and was knackered. You've done really well to stick it out. Good luck x

Willow - high five for that one! I hear you....am 36, with a much longed for baby, and I am quite frankly getting fed up with the negative (and sometimes maybe slightly smug) comments about lack of sleep for years after the baby is here etc!

I have had it from a friends who have no children either!!

Oops I am probably one of those people that say the negative things about newborns! Mainly because I had no idea what was about to hit me when I was pregnant with DS1. However, it would have annoyed me when people said negative things. The fact is though, I found it harder than I ever ever imagined but you somehow cope.

The thing that annoyed me after I had the baby was when people would say "it doesn't get easier when they get older - it just gets different." Which is utter bollocks. My DS is now over 2 and I find him a dream compared to a newborn which brought me to my knees.

So yes, ignore their negativity but please do be prepared for it to be difficult. Pregnancy insomnia is nothing compared to walking the streets at midnight with a crying baby. Or putting a baby finally to sleep, sitting down to eat your dinner and the baby wakes again. I found that difficult.

However, you also have the delight of a little gorgeous baby who grows up before your eyes and that does bring moments of joy in the dark days.

When I came home with DS, he woke every 90 minutes for about two weeks.

I WAS STILL LESS TIRED THAN WHEN PREGNANT

Late pregnancy is so utterly exhausting - havih a newborn, with the adrenaline rush and everything, is nothing like it!

(trying to remember his now again as am knackered and pg again)!

Good luck :)

I find that the post pregnancy tiredness is a whole different type of tiredness and is easier to cope with than normal tiredness. My ds1 is 6 weeks old and it has amazed me how good I can feel on a tiny amount of sleep.
I slept so badly during pregnancy it took everything I had to just move to the settee, now I can do all my Christmas shopping on 20 mins sleep. Don't let them get ya down

My DC2 is now 3 weeks old and I can assure you that it's much easier than late pregnancy was!

My DC1 was a really difficult baby but it was still better than not being able to sleep, having heartburn, having to go to the loo every hour and never being able to get comfortable.

You are nearly there! Not much longer :). Ignore those idiots who have no idea.

Ladies, you have all made me feel SO much better about my impending arrival as well as the 'advice' of the smug men here at work. Thank you for your support and advice. Last day today.......what a relief.