Scared

[Airfryer]

Found out 3 weeks ago that I'm pregnant, was really shocked as I'm on the pill and sex is somewhat lacking (sorry tmi)

When I was pregnant with ds1, I really struggled with sickness and tiredness. The sickness hasn't been as bad (so far) but by heck I am absolutely exhausted. I'm not coping with this tiredness.

I'm giving ds1 his milk and going to bed with him. I can't keep my eyes open! My partner is being brilliant and has picked up running around house etc but I feel so guilty. And the tiredness is making me snappy and I'm snApping at him. I don't mean too,

My ds is 1 today and I've found myself feeling incredibly guilty that I'm not going to be able to give him the attention he deserves. All I keep thinking is how am I going to cope with 2 under 2.

Might be hormones but just feeling really low

I understand how you feel, the tiredness is bad enough when it's your first pregnancy, let alone when you've got a little one.

Be nice to yourself and don't worry about your oh having to pick up some slack for a bit - you're a team, that's how it works. You're doing the right thing just getting as much sleep as you can.

Are you taking a supplement with iron in? I've got a tesco's own pregnancy multivitamin that as well as folic acid has iron and other vitamins. I think that's helping my tiredness a little.

I know it's a bit (!) daunting the thought of how to cope with a newborn and a small one. I think it's partly going into it with your eyes more open this time and wondering how on earth you would have managed it the first time if you'd had a toddler too? But it will be fine. You will manage, and more than that it will be amazing! Just try and use any support you have as much as you can.

Just take it a day at a time and try not to worry about the future yet. It's early days and all you can do is look after yourself.

When you do have a little energy, take your dc and have some time with him. Do you have friends with dc you can visit? I always find two adults and two kids a lot less tiring than one and one. Then when you need to rest in the day you won't feel too bad as you will already have done something with him.

But if you're tired, give him some toys and sit and watch him play. It won't be forever, just rest when you need to

Thanks for your reply.

Dp is on way home from work and going to get a vitamin for me, I hadn't thought of that!

Still getting out and playing with ds, it's everything else that is suffering at the minute....dp doing more than fair share in house, absolutely shattered at work, going bed ridiculously early. I'm more worried when the baby comes about not being able to give ds the attention. Or how ill cope with the lack of sleep, at least I could nap when ds was younger. I know it's just a panic, probably hormone induced.

Need to stop worrying about the early years an think about when they are older and are best friends.

If you haven't already, look into getting a wrap/sling for DC2. It can be a lot easier to move about and still keep the baby calm when the baby is attached to your front. :)