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Unplanned pregnancy and baby daddy wants me to have an abortion

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Sarahjane305610 · 08/12/2012 11:53

Hi , I have just found out I'm almost 5 week pregnant it was an unplanned pregnancy me and the baby daddy were not in a relationship we have been having casual sex on and off but this time I got pregnant I told him that I was pregnant and he told me to have an Abortion I said I would never be able to live with myself if I did that but he insists I have and abortion but on top of that he dosnt want anyone to know that he's the dad I was saying it wasn't ment to happen but what's done is done and he really does not want to become father he already has one child and she left and moved to Ireland but I said I wouldn't move but still insists I have an Abortion it's against everything I believe in I said he would have to tell his man but he says no cause he wants be to abort the baby PLEASE will someone help me I'm so stressed and angry I don't know what I'm to do I don't want to hurt him in what his decision is could someone help me ????

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Lazzy81 · 07/02/2018 22:28

Hi ive been seeing this guy and having sex with him every time we see each other. He said he likes me and all that but I found out he has got a gf. We meet at the dating sites he told me his single thats why im up for it so when we see each we had sex and now I fpu d what his done I felt ive been used. He said thats not true as he cares for me so much. But the problem is im pregnant at early stages I told him because I was so angry. I wasnt intend to tell him cos I know its way early now he knows he was so angry at me and he wants to get abortion. He said it kill him and I was blackmailing him. I was so god smacked because after all what he did to me im the one will have to do what he asked. So I told him im keeping the baby no matter what and I dont need him in my life so I blocked him because im so stress for his behaviour .

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Gigimoll · 07/02/2018 23:41

My dp when we'd been together for a year made me have an abortion at 10w. I was 19, my brother had committed suicide 2 months before and his excuse was we weren't in the right frame of mind.
I clearly wasn't. So I went ahead with it and honestly, not a day goes by where I don't think about that baby. Especially now we have a daughter and I'm due ds in 7 weeks with the same DP. But I do wish I'd have put my foot down and kept baby number 1.
This is your baby, your body, your choice. Please don't let him dictate this. He knew this was possible and you can manage if you do want to keep baby x

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Lazzy81 · 07/02/2018 23:59

Thank you ..but right now im so upset for his behaviour as much im concerned I decided to keep it either he likes or not im not the one who is cheated and a user. I can do raise my child with out him

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