Husband making cr*p jokes about baby weight

[PugOwner]

So my delightful husband has started making little comments about me losing my baby weight and how quickly it will happen, and noting that Megan Fox 'snapped back into shape' within four weeks. How helpful and inspiring. Not. This ended, this morning, in an inevitably enormous row.

He's not a total Neanderthal (usually) but I think he just doesn't get that I might already be feeling sensitive about this (and I'm only 12 wks).

I don't think he'll dare to make that particular joke again, but I do think he needs some sort of insight into how a pregnant woman might actually be feeling. Does anyone have a 'for dad' book they can recommend that I could give him to read? And has anyone else's OH thought this was a funny joke to make? Or I am I just saddled with a total cretin? ( Bit late to realise that now, oops....)

www.amazon.co.uk/Dads-Because-Bringing-Rocket-Science/dp/1844033341/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1354875389&sr=8-1

(and to counteract the insensitive husband...)

My, PugOwner, you look fabulous today

PugOwner you have my sympathies. My DH (honestly a lovely man) seems to think it is helpful to say things like, "don't worry, we will prioritise you getting back into shape as soon as the baby is born!" When I yelled at spoke to him about it, he seemed astonished that I wasn't thrilled by this as he thought it was reassuring to know that I had his support on the matter!!

I think he is genuinely clueless about the impact pregnancy has on the body and has no idea that it isn't quite the same as just putting on a couple of pounds. At one of our antenatal appointments a woman was in the waiting room with a newborn (maybe 3-4 weeks old) and afterwards DH said he was confused because she still looked pregnant and he (honestly) thought there might be another one in there

Bollocks to Megan Fox, btw.

You have my sympathy, as I have a cretin of a DP too!

I think the first stupid comment was early on when the bump was appearing, he would look at other body parts and ask if there was a baby growing there too as they were getting bigger

Then further down the line at a birth-related group, where most of the other couples were 4-8 weeks further along than me, he made a thing of asking me why I was the same size!

6 weeks to go now, and he is shitting himself about the birth so much that the stupid comments have all but stopped

Sorry - no real advice from me, but I hope that as you grow, he will snap out of it and remember there will be a queue of people telling you how awesome and beautiful you look!!

He is a dickhead. Sorry. He would get short shrift if he was my husband.

Just threaten to sit on him (that's what I used to threaten to do to DH when he pissed me off). That should shut him up.

Send the link to the interview Megan Fox did recently to your husband.

The one where she said that for two weeks she did all the childcare with no help, but decided that she'd set her expectations of herself too highly, and that her husband wasn't happy. So now they have a nightnurse twice a week, and a nanny whenever they need her.

And that she is still 10 pounds over her ideal weight but has spent a lot of time working out whilst her husband and nanny look after their child, because swimming and being in the gym is a good escape.

Then find the most expensive gym in the area, fill in all your details, and leave him to fill in the DD part. Tell him you'll start looking for a nanny and a nightnurse, so you can make sure you sleep well enough to go to the gym, and that the baby is being looked after okay.

After all, if he wants you to look like Megan Fox, he's going to have to pay for the things that allowed her to bounce back into shape.

Men are absolutely clueless but tbh so was I until I got pregnant had no idea what an upheaval it would be on your body tiredness and hormones. At least women have a little empathy and common sense

I will be purchasing that book as well ha ha wait till you are more obviously pregnant and get insensitive comments off strangers but you need your DP/DH to be your rock.
No one can anticipate how they will be during and after pregnancy but it's the price we pay for those beautiful babies!
Congrats on your pregnancy and I am sure you look gorgeous!! X

Also -grrrr - just to get on my high horse about this - of COURSE Megan bloody Fox has to 'snap back into shape' - it's her entire JOB to look a certain way (as - sorry, bitchy comment warning - I'm not exactly sure what else she does).

GOD, the 'snapping back into shape' thing annoys me.

would still quite like to snap back into shape though

Cajadelamoria exactly! Lol

Get him this

www.amazon.co.uk/Pregnancy-For-Men-whole-months/dp/190541062X

It's hilarious, but informative, and points out in a way 'jokey' blokes can relate to that certain comments are unwelcome. My DH loved it (and got the message that I am not fat I am 'gorgeous', and all lifting, carrying etc is 100% his job).

My DH read 'You're the Daddy' and loved it

www.amazon.co.uk/Youre-Daddy-ultimate-guide-blokes/dp/1905410417/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1354911485&sr=1-1

Poor you! Hope he takes on board how unhelpful his comments are!