Splitting up with DH while pregnant

[Emsyboo]

Me and DH have been together for 5 years married for 3 and have a DS together.
Things are usually good but we have a lot if issues (mostly family related) that have been swept under the carpet and are building up.
This recently came to a head and I have moved in with my parents with DS.
My DH doesn't seem to want to sort 'us' out but is more concerned about access to DS which is ironic as he isn't a hands on father at the moment.
Anyway I am currently in hospital with DC2 (DH's child) I am 25 weeks but have low lying placenta which keeps bleeding so I keep getting admitted. DH came in for 5 mins to check baby is ok then left, it was very cold and left me very upset.
I am now thinking about the birth normally I would have DH there and I know he will want to be there. I don't know if I can have a normal birth or will need a c section but either way this last encounter in hospital left me upset that I don't think it's appropriate for him to be there and I wouldn't feel comfortable.
I appreciate a lot could happen in 15 weeks but what would you do?
I am so worried about our future, money etc but ATM am stressing about this baby and getting them safely into the world. I still love my DH but if he doesn't want to work out our problems I don't know what I can do it is because I still love him that having him around not being affectionate or caring to me is particularly upsetting.

Have you had marriage counselling/therapy together? Seems like the obvious first step. Sorry to hear about your predicament.

Sorry you're going through such a tough time. Do you need to make a decision immediately about the birth? Would it be possible to talk with someone close (friend or relative) and ask them to be your birth-partner IF you decide, at the time of your labour, that you don't in fact want your Dh there?

I'm certain any maternity unit will go along with your wishes for who you do or don't want in the room, and having only supportive and caring people there sounds like the right approach. You can always allow your DH to be in the waiting room so he can see your baby straight away, without upsetting you during labour.

Hope all goes well OP.

Thanks
I suggested marriage counselling a few months ago which he agreed to but never materialised -both of our fault - then again this week but he has not responded to me on it just seems focused on getting good access to DS.
I really want to make it work the only other person close would be my Mum but need her to look after DS as DH should still be around to meet his DH if not in the room at the difficult and emotional bit.
I was having a tough day yesterday and posted after 2 newborns crying in beds next to me and feeling very sorry for myself.
I just hate being so helpless the ball is in his court but he is non communicative to me. Everything is just open like Christmas and the birth. He made me feel so bad yesterday when I needed support.

Thanks for you kind words I am hoping for the best but expecting the worse x

I also have a scan on Christmas eve including an internal scan and not sure I want him there doesn't seem appropriate but no he will want to be there.