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Its a mess

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greenj1 · 05/12/2012 23:25

Hi,I have 3 children with my husband. We split up earlier this year but get on much better now...so much so we started sleeping together again. I have now found out i am 6 weeks pregnant and its such a mess. I am not getting back with my husband he has made it quite clear we are better apart but he has completly freaked out over the pregnancy and I know he would like me to have an abortion. I am against abortion and to tell the truth i am a little excited to be expecting again...i know a mess! I am not sleeping to well with all the worry and would love to hear other peoples thoughts on this?!

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ScubaSarah · 06/12/2012 07:41

Firstly, congrats in the BFP!
Do you feel you could cope without your ex'es help? If so then why should his opinion matter? Sorry if that sounds judgy, I don't mean it to; but if you feel you can carry on without him and are excited by it then why not! Good luck whatever you decide! X

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greenj1 · 06/12/2012 08:10

Thanks for the reply! you know you are right, I can do it by myself its just a little bit scary x

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worsestershiresauce · 06/12/2012 09:22

I think you probably need to accept that he isn't going to be there for you, but that doesn't have to matter. Termination might be his idea of a solution, but he isn't the one who has to go through with it. If it is not right for you, it is not right for you, and it is your choice.

I think there is a single parent forum on here, and I am sure lots of lovely ladies on there will be able to answer every question you might have on going through pregnancy without a partner. Good luck.

MisselthwaiteManor · 06/12/2012 10:42

What's he like with your other children?

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greenj1 · 06/12/2012 13:51

Thats the thing , He is so good with the other kids, He sees them all the time and is a really good dad. He just thinks this is screwed up : (

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Haggisfish · 06/12/2012 14:57

i'm sorry, but I agree with your ex. it's easy to say 'his opinion doesn't matter', but he will be the child's father, and be financially responsible for it. Does a child really deserve to be brought into the world with a father who actively said he didn't want it? I'm not trying to be rude or judgemental, but surely this should have been discussed/contraception used before unprotected sex took place?

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greenj1 · 06/12/2012 15:38

I get where you are coming from haggis but I just dont believe in abortions, we got carried away one night and this is what happened! I dont make my ex pay maintenence, we have a family arrangement which has worked out really well. I suppose we will have to see what happens

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